Safety of Self Bondage
Before performing any self bondage, please
read the following safety advices carefully and
make sure that you understand them.
If something goes wrong, you may end up dead.
There are other activities in life where a mistake can kill
you, like driving a car, or diving. The difference
with self bondage is the additional humilation that will come on top of
your death.
If you are found alive, you are much better of. People will make fun of you,
but they forget quickly. After some time you will be able to get
on with your life.
The good thing about self bondage is, that the risk that something
seriously goes wrong can be made very small, I think much smaller
than with car driving, but only if you think in advance about
what you are doing.
I give you two lists of advices. The first list of safety rules is
about keeping you alive. The second list is about avoiding
the humiliation of a discovery.
But remember: Even if you follow the safety rules, there is always a
remaining risk, although very low.
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Do not restrict your breath, do not tie yourself
in a bath or in a swimming pool,
do not play with fire.
Even when applying non-strict self bondage.
I have
never done any of such things by myself.
If you prefer not to follow
this advice, it may cause your death. If you
read about somebody who did such a thing and survived,
then this person was just lucky one time. There is no guarantee
that you will be lucky too, and no guarantee that the other
person will be lucky the next time.
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Do not tie yourself in unstable positions
When your hands are tied, you
can fall very very hard. Do not tie yourself
to something big that can fall on you.
When your ankles are tied, you fall much quicker
than normal, especially when they are crossed.
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Make sure that you can reach the outside world
Put a phone within your reach and open a window, so that
you can be heard when you shout. The police have
seen more strange things before. They will be gone in 15 minutes.
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Risks from Outside
Switch off as many electrical devices as possible.
Check the weather forecast. It is just irritating when it's
raining and you cannot close the windows because you
happen to be tied up.
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Be careful with Extreme Positions
Be careful when you tie yourself in extreme positions, for example
your hands pulled high, your hands pulled high behind your back,
or your legs spread.
Such positions become painful very quickly, and they can cause
damage. I am not the right person
to say that you should never do this, but be very very careful.
In such a position, you are probably unable to make phonecalls.
At least open a window, so that you will be heard when you shout.
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Your Health
Do not tie yourself up when you are drunk, or in
doubt about your health. I cannot decide in your place which
risks you should take or not take, but please be careful.
I expect from you that you follow the rules that
I have just given. I don't want you to get hurt.
The following rules are less strict. They
are about avoiding discovery and humiliation.
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Check your Release Mechanism
Always use a double release mechanism. At
least one of
the release mechanisms must not depend on
public electricity. Respect each of the
release mechanism as if it is your only
escape.
Try out the mechanisms many times, before
using it in real. Never reuse a mechanism that has
failed once. It will fail again.
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Be careful using a release person
If you want to be found by your husband/wife/boyfriend/
girlfriend, you need to be certain that
he/she will come at the expected time.
Better use a back-up release mechanism. People
do sometimes misunderstand appointments.
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Blood Circulation Problems
If your release method depends on the fact that you are
able to use your hands, then it is extremely important
that the blood circulation to your hands is undisturbed.
When your hands are numb you will be unable to free yourself.
You will be also unable to use a telephone.
If you try out a new position, first try it out without
time delay, so that you can free yourself immediately,
when you feel circulation problems.
Try it out for the time that you plan to lock yourself.
Circulation problems may occur very unexpectedly.
For example, if I lay back on the bed, and lay my
hands in the corners of the bed, they will be totally
numb within 30 minutes. Tying your hands behind your
back and pulling them high is also likely to cause circulation
problems.
What is unproblematic for somebody else, can be
a real problem for you. Be careful when copying
scenario's from the web. Always try it out
in advance for the time that you plan to tie yourself.
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Think about the place that you use
How safe is it? Is there a risk
of uninvited visitors? In principle it is good when
you know that somebody is going to find you, but
who will it be? Windows sometimes reflect in unexpected directions.
There are some remaining advices to give:
Never panic
If things go wrong, then don't start struggling
without thinking. Chains and locks are stronger than you.
You will only hurt youself. Look at your
situation and check what your possibilities are. In the worst
case, shout for help.
Chains sometimes leave permanent scars.
I have a few of them. No problem for a man, but if
you are woman you probably want to avoid them. Chains
don't leave scars on your wrists or ankles, neither
on the elbows, but for some reason they leave
permantent scars on the chest when lying on them.
This is a problem with the BPBH. Make sure that the background
is soft enough. Don't tie yourself with chains when it is hot,
and your skin is sticky.