Advice from a 14 year old

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12.26.99  

     Only dwell on yesterday's problems if they are unresolved. If you annoy yourself about something that can no longer be changed about yesterday, soon today will be tomorrow, yesterday will be last week and tomorrow will have already passed you by. Don't let this happen, for if you do, you are headed for nothing but disaster.

    Don't try to break in your new skates at a skate park if it's your first time going to one. The results won't be very pretty.

    If you take everything seriously and litterally all the time, because then after a while, the fun part inside of you will soon fade away and will be even harder to find once it has done so.

    When dropping in, don't stay up at the top too long, looking at how high up you are, how far down the flat bottem is and wondering how badly it's going to hurt when you fall. If you do that, you will fall.

    Remember that letting go of someone doesn't mean that you have to forget them, or never think or speak about (to) them again. All it means is that you are moving onto something better for yourself and opening up more possibilities for your life. It does not mean that you don't think about them, dream about them or still even love them. Do it for yourself, although the words don't seem like very much, the result of the actions will be profoundly amazing.

    Remember, if you do everything to make everyone else happy, then you will end up not being happy at all. I'm not saying that you should disregaurd what other people think, but take into account what you want to do. Make yourself happy once in a while. You'll end up being much happier in the long-run.

    To be satisfied in a relationship, you must first be satisfied with yourself. This is a key idea, because if you look down upon yourself, then you will find it hard to believe what others say about you and you'll end up not believing them. This doesn't make a relationship very benificial for either partner.

    Always tell someone you love, that you love them. By saying three words "I love you", you could make someone's day so much brighter and you will let them know that you care about them and that they have someone who will miss them if they are gone. You might actually end up saving someone's life.

    Crying isn't a bad thing. We are usually led to believe that crying shows vulnerability, which it sometimes can, but crying can also relieve a lot of tension and stress. If you need to cry, then do so. It can help clear your mind like no drug can.

    Remember, life is the most precious thing that you could ever have. Think about it. Even though life sucks sometimes (hey, it does! i'm not going to deny it.), there are those certain times, those tims which I wouldn't give up for anything. Sometimes they can just be simple things that can make your day and lift your spirits for the rest of the week. Those times are the ones that make everything else worth while. Without your life, you wouldn't be able to be reading this right now and realizing how pathetic I actually am! Now how bout that???

    Fate is screwed up. Yea, you heard me. The thing about fate is that it only takes you so far, and from there, it is up to you to finish the job (I kind of stole that part from Can't Hardly Wait). The other thing about fate is, that you can't change it. It will do things to you throughout your life that at the time, will seem rediculous and possibly even horrible. But, if you think about it later on, you will realize why it happened and how much you benifited from the whole experience.

    Don't always try to analyze everything. Some things are meant for you to just jump head first into, without looking. But, don't do this with everything, or you'll end up some place where you can't handle yourself. You must use your judgement on when to do it. Don't use a friend, a parent's or anyone else's judgement if it's not their situation. Although they may end up being right, they aren't going to be the ones who are in trouble if their judgement was off-you are.

    Look deep inside yourself and find who you really are. By doing so, you will then be able to learn more about others around you. You will have a perspective and personality all your own, something that no one can ever take away from you, unless you let them. Don't try to hide it or change it, because by doing so, you'll only be hurting yourself. And it will take twice the agony and stress it took to hide it, to undo it.