What is the cure to loneliness

What is the cure to loneliness? I bet if you ask people they will say “it is to be with someone…” I think the correct answer is to be with the correct person. Now so many of you reading this are going to say ‘well yeah’, ‘of course’ etc., etc. But that is what is so strange about this seemingly really easy question… people think that they know the answer but it is my thesis that most people are wrong. I see so many people and they are with girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands and wives and they are simply unhappy. Why?

Believe it or not it is simply down to a matter of utility. Most people look at their lives, at their partners and think “God I would love to fuck ”. Why don’t they… because they know that their hour or whatever length it would take, of fun would then end and they would be faced with the cold reality that they have just had an affair with their so called loved one. Or you get the people that do go and have the affair and then live out a lie with their partners.

Why all this though… surely some people are meant to be with only one person and some people are meant to be with a lot of people. Like, the way that one people is dedicated to only one person, why can’t one person be dedicated to many, or many dedicated to many?

It is my opinion that more people should say “who gives a damn what other people think!”. And I do not mean like going out and hurting someone or causing injury… if you think that you’re an idiot, stop reading this now. I mean that if both people are happy with each other then what is the harm in being with each other. I am sure you heard about secret societies where people have orgies and rampant sex with strangers… they are secret because it is looked down upon by society in general.

I think society in general though is not what 50% or more of people think, but simply the people that get heard because they usually nag the loudest. Now that is incorrect. How many people live sheltered unhappy lives because they are afraid to go out and live they way they want because of “society in general”? Take homosexuality and the church. How many gay or lesbian people have killed themselves because they knew they could never be themselves because the church told them it was evil or wrong. My whole argument is not about sex though… it is about finding out what you like to do, and finding other people that like doing it too. Be it racing cars, playing computer games, having sex, listening to a certain kind of music, dressing up in a certain way.

It is easy to start going into all the clichés, so I am not going to fall into the trap. Those who can listen and have read this have heard what I am saying. Those who are deaf and have read this will never hear anything at all, bar that which is taught to them through fear and trembling. Do this one thing for me… no, for you. Pretend that you have one moment to live… and in this one moment ask yourself what would you regret, or do differently had you another chance at life? Nothing, good you are an exceptional person. However, if you have some things to change you are totally normal. If however you are like so many people that hate their lives then what are you waiting for. Isn’t it better to be seen as crazy by others and be happy rather than Mr. or Mrs. Nice and be unhappy with yourself?

And so I find myself back where I started from. What is loneliness? I think most people know what loneliness is… most people long for something different. Most people are not aware that there are others out their like them. So, forget other peoples opinions. Fuck it, don’t listen to my opinion! Just be happy… and find the one who you are happy to be with, no matter what it takes. There is always a bigger picture, attempt to step back and see it because it is as amazing as your imagination will let it be.

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