Few Safety Tips..
Do not plan on any play or scening at the first meeting.
rrange to meet someplace public and neutral.
Make sure you have easy access to transportation, including the cost of tickets, taxi, car rental, etc.
ever play without a safe word. If the Dom/me doesn't ask, tell them. A safe word is one which, when you say it, means all play stops immediately.
No questions asked. Make it one you will not forget.
n addition to safe words, there are control words.
The usual ones are "green", "yellow" and "red".
Green means you are still able to bear the intensity of play and can continue. Yellow means you are nearing the limits of what you can tolerate and the dominant should slow down.
Red means you have reached your limit and the dominant should proceed to back down to an acceptable level.
Never allow yourself to be put in a position where you are unable to communicate your safe word or control words to the dominant. This means working out hand signals if you are gagged, for example.
rrange for a safe call or two...even for the second and third meeting.
This means arranging for a someone to call you or for you to call someone at a prearranged time. There should be a key phrase or two that only the two of you know. One phrase should mean you are alright and the other should mean you are in trouble and need help.
ake sure friends and/or family know where you are.
You want someone to be able to find you if you are hurt.
now the dominant. Not only should this be someone you have talked to
and gotten to know, Leave yourself an "out". This means making sure that you have the means to leave if and when you feel it is necessary.
estrict or refrain from alcohol and drugs.A drunk dominant is an irresponsible one. A drunk submissive cannot properly determine their own condition.
Drinking and drugs and driving and scening don't mix. Any dominant who says precautions are not necessary is to be avoided at all costs. This is so important that it bears repeating.
f there is the slightest, most minute doubt in your mind,
if the tiniest voice is signalling an alarm, LISTEN TO IT!
Note: Many of these precautions, especially safe words and control words, are wise when playing online as well. >
