- He may be any race, social class, occupation, religion, and education level;

- He often has a very low opinion of women;

- He may have witnessed his father abusing his mother while growing up;

- He may, or may not, have a problem with alcohol/substance abuse. If he does, the abuse often continues or gets worse even when he is not drinking/using;

- He is generally insecure and attempts to control his partner by inducing fear with violence or threats of violence. Instilling fear is his greatest weapon;

- He tries to isolate the woman from her friends, family, and anyone who might be of help to her;

- Some abusive men are also directly abusive to their children. Even when children are not directly abused, they are affected in a variety of negative ways by the abuse;

- He displays jealousy and will accuse the woman of being with other men or wanting to be with other men;

- He denies that he has hurt the woman and denies that he is responsible. He appear to forget about what he has does and said;

- He will use verbal assaults even when he is not physically violent;

- He generally deals with anger by flying into a rage;

- He may be more violent when the woman is pregnant or soon after she gives birth;

- He will project his behaviour onto the woman. He will say that the abuse is her fault;

- He cannot separate his needs from the needs of his partner. He often becomes abusive if the woman expresses needs,feelings, or opinions that are different from his;

- He may try to convince the woman that she is crazy;

- He may express remorse and sorrow after a violent episode and may make promises to change;

- If his partner leaves, he will do whatever it takes to her her back: apologize, send her flowers, take the children, cry, threaten suicide, promise to go in to counselling.

NOTE: NOT ALL OF THESE WILL BE DEMONSTRATED BY ALL ABUSIVE MALES, RATHER, THESE ARE EXAMPLES OF THE TYPES OF ATTITUDES AND ACTIONS COMMONLY NOTED.
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