Stop & Start Technique

First, the husband and wife should begin lovemaking. As soon as the husband's penis becomes
erect, they need to stop. Then he lays down on his back and the wife proceeds to masturbate him.
During this time, the husband must focus on the sexual sensations that he feels. As soon as he begins
to feel like he is going to orgasm, he must tell his wife to stop. This procedure should be repeated 5
times in a row. After the fifth time, he should offer to pleasure his wife (oral/manual stimulation). This
is important because she has just spent a considerable amount of time pleasuring her man and may
want some sexual attention also. Before moving on to the next exercise, make sure the two of you feel
comfortable with this exercise. Successful completion means, that for three nights in a row, you will
be able to tell your wife to stop prior to orgasm, enabling your need to orgasm to abate. You will have
achieved the beginning stage of control.

The second stage is to engage in the same foreplay, your partner masturbating you,
but this time with the help of some lubrication. I recommend Astroglide. In my opinion, this is the best
stuff on the market. But if other subscribers have different thoughts please feel free to let me know,
and I will post your responses. Repeat the above procedure; the sensations may be stronger because
she is not only touching you with her hands, but there is lubrication. If per chance, you ejaculate
before you are mentally prepared, your partner will admonish you for not taking better care to feel
your sexual sensations. She will redirect your attention to focus more selfishly on your own bodily
feelings.

The third stage consists of the man and woman engaging in coitus (sex). The woman should be
in the top position and the man on bottom. He then guides her thrusting movements with his hands.
When he comes close to having an orgasm, he stops her. Together they wait until his intense
sensations abate. After his sensations have substantially decreased, he again guides her thrusting
movements. This process should be repeated five times for four days in a row.

For most couples to accomplish the above tasks will take 2-6 weeks. Congratulate yourselves for
your hard work. To truly achieve delayed ejaculations may take several additional months of practice,
but you will be well on your way to having learned successful control. With this new found control
you will be in a much more superior position to pleasure both yourself and your wife.

For those of you who do not quite feel comfortable with the first form of the Stop & Start
Technique there is a second version, which still depends upon the same set of assumptions. People
who suffer from premature ejaculation do not recognize the erotic sensations that they feel as they
approach the point of no return, which is the point just prior to orgasm. To learn control, you must
slow down the process. The overall, theme to the second approach is identifying the sensations based
on a numbers approach. The numbers may vary a bit depending on what you consider to be sexually
exciting. I have merely suggested a few which others have thought helpful. What the male will need to
do is to take the next week or more, both by himself, and with his partner to name exactly what
sensations each different numbers represent. Zero being the least sensations, and one hundred being
the most.

Zero = a flaccid penis with no sexual thoughts or energy
Five = an erect penis with minimal sexual thoughts and/or energy
Ten = ears being nibbled
Fifteen = reading sexy stories together
Twenty = breast stimulation
Forty = slow penal stimulation
Fifty = slow oral stimulation of your penis
Eighty = medium paced penal-vaginal intercourse
Ninety-nine = point of no return
One Hundred = orgasm

Now that you have a number system this will be your primary way of communicating with your partner
(and yourself) what sensation you are feeling at any given point in time. If she is stimulating you to
orgasm from manual stimulation you should be able to tell her at every different junction what number
you are feeling. It may only be a matter of five seconds before you orgasm, but within those five
seconds you should be able to say 2,5, 38, 69, 88, 99, 100. If the numbers are rising very rapidly you
are exactly where you want to be. If you are able to take longer approaching each number, then you
are slightly ahead of the game.Do not think for a moment that you are in any position to skip any of
the below steps. It just means that you might have an easier time achieving each step. Developing
control over your premature ejaculation will take time. It does not happen overnight.

Now, like in the first way of treating a premature ejaculation, after the man has become sexually
aroused and has an orgasm, he should lie down on his back and the woman should begin to masturbate
him with her hands. This time do not allow him to achieve higher than a 20 from the scale of 1-100
which measures his level of excitement. After he has achieved the 20, she must stop and wait until his
penis returns to its flaccid state.

After he is flaccid this process begins again. This cycle repeats for 5 days. On the fifth day, the
wife should stimulate him until he reaches a 25. When he reaches level 25, she must stop and wait for
him to return to his flaccid state. This cycle of reaching a 25 and then stopping repeats until he is able
to master this process for three days in a row. After the husband is able to reach a level 50, the woman
must stop what she is doing until his feelings of excitement return to level 25 (the degree of sensations
on a scale of 1-100). This process repeats all the way up until he can tell his wife that he is not only at
level 98, and she is able to successfully stop while his sensations abate to the mid-twenties, but he is
able to tell the difference between level 97 and 98. Expect that this exercise will take 1-3 months to
achieve.

Having achieved success, the two of you are now ready to begin the next phase. This assignment
is progressively harder, but operates with the same principals. Instead of simply using manual
stimulation, the wife should combine lubrication and manual stimulation. After the two of you are able
to complete this process, try using fellatio (which is a blow-job/giving head). However, in these two
phases, you can spend one day on achieving each number at five point increments. If you find yourself
having difficulty maintaining control, then feel free to take slightly longer at each stage and try
moving by one-point increments. The purpose of using a one hundred point scale is not to bore/tire
you to death, or make this process take any longer than necessary. Rather the purpose is to help the
two of you to slow down enough so that you the man can really feel and recognize each stage and be
extremely aware of all the different sexual sensations that he is experiencing. This is critical to his
developing control of his ejaculations.

Now the two of you are ready for penal-vaginal intercourse. By now I am sure the two of you
can expect that the one hundred-point scale will be used to help the two of you out again. As in the
first stop & start technique, the woman is in the top position and the man is on the bottom. He again
helps to control her hip movements. When he reaches the sensation of a 20, he must tell her to stop
and wait until his penis returns to a flaccid state. After he has become flaccid, the two of you will
begin again to pleasure each other (while the man's penis is inside the woman). This may mean mouth-
to-mouth stimulation (i.e. issing), ear nibbling, breast-fondling/caressing, dirty talk . . . . Once the
man's penis is erect begin again with the thrusting of the hips. After reaching a level of 20 stop. Each
day, increase the degree of sensation by five points. If any point seems to cause you difficulty, break
the steps down into the actual five incremental steps (31,32,33,34,45). There is no need to rush each
other. The two of you are not going anywhere.

Besides, good sex requires lots and lots of practice. Good sex is not something that is learned
overnight. Ok, once the man has reached a level 40, his goal is to let his sexual sensations abate until
his level of sexual excitement is at a 20. This continues until the man has achieved a level of 98.

By the time the man has reached a level of 98 sexual excitement and been able to tell his partner
to stop during manual, oral and penal-vaginal intercourse the problem of premature ejaculation has
become a problem of the past. There is almost no need to orgasm any longer - unless you want to.
Smile - Congratulations!