Sibling Stories

You see stories on the TV all the time about how siblings find each other after years have past, when they are all grown up and have lived their lives and still thought that there was something missing. It is interesting to know that even though siblings may be raised apart, that they still have a very strong bond for each other. In cases of twins, this seems to be more evident. I believe that God has instilled in us the desire for family connections, the true blood line connections. Children raised in foster homes are still loved and given all the essentials necessary for life, but they still come to an age where they want to know who they are and where they came from. If the foster parents are truthful and they tell them the truth about their past that infant amnesia forbids them to remember, then that child will more than likely try to investigate for himself to see what happened to his real parents. Even if they aren’t told the truth, then the child will have emptiness in their soul that will haunt them their entire life.

There are some cases where an adopted child can still remember things when they were very young and can figure out for themselves that the “parents” that they are with are not their real birth, God-given parents. There are movies that reflect this remembrance all the time. There are still records of that child’s birth that can be traced and other legal documents that they try to make invisible, but are still traceable. In cases where the parent dies and the child is left to adoption by someone other than true blood family, the child will still want to investigate so that he can know his heritage, whether it is good or bad. I believe that it should be left up to the child to determine if his true blood family was worth the questions that he has in his mind. What if finding out a truth about a parent leads them to a story of the mother having thrown him in a trash can to die only to for someone else to find him? Is this information that is better left untold? Or does knowing this information give the child a better sense of thankfulness to whomever found him so that he could have the life that he had lived thus far? I don’t believe that is for others to decide the answers to the questions of adopted or fostered children. They do have minds of their own and do grow up into productive adults…

            Which leads me to this question; my children are currently separated because of a controlling father and the “wise” decisions of DFS. If for some reason that this case does not get resolved and my youngest daughter is forced into adoption that I have would have no control over, do you think that they will seek each other when they get older? I do. All three of my children are about seven years apart. My oldest daughter is currently going through some very confused emotional stuff that has caused her to withdraw from me. She knows about the events from both sides, but she is also being “fed” false information constantly. In a few short years, she will be out on her own. Do you truly think that she will continue through life to not think about a sister that she knows exists? I don’t think so. Then there is sweet little Lizzy, my second child. I know that she is extremely confused about how she is forced to see me in these conditions; she knows that she has a sister, but I know that she is extremely confused about everything that is going on because she is fed the false side of things too. Is it “right” for us as “adults” to keep information from these children who are smarter than most “adults” give them credit for? Is it right for them to not allow them to fully express their emotions to any party that is involved? Is it right for them to have to “weigh” what is said and ignore the obvious? Is this really healthy for the children? “They” can hide and pretend certain things do not exist, but when these children grow up, they are going to have many unsolved questions and I truly believe that they will resent the ones that has not allowed the truth be known and emotions conveyed.

            It is sad to know that this case involves so many lies and misconceptions and is being controlled because of one person’s jealous misjudgments. Do they not see the damage that is being done to these innocent children? If I had all the money in the world, then this case would not be happening to me or my children. Where is the constitutional justice that claims that even though a person is poor, that justice can be sought? So many “facts” are being covered up and ignored, from all the levels of authority. What gives them the right to only read what they think suits them? Why can’t they see the bigger picture here? What about the future of these innocent children that is being in the middle of fire of a controlling person that only wishes for me to have a miserable life? These people are “old” enough to be adults, so why don’t they act like mature people instead of demanding, spoiled little children?

            I believe that God is going to take care of this case. He instills in me ideas of stories to try to explain the “inside”. I hope that this comes to “light” to those that read it.