Topic 1: Finding Mr. Right
For my first topic, I've decided to talk about different kinds of guys I've run into a some point in my college life, and how they do or do not possess qualities of "Mr. Right." Basically, Mr. Right is someone who has intelligence, class, confidence, heart and personality. He is someone who sets his heights high, makes goals for himself that he will achieve, and keeps a positive outlook on life. He is someone you can connect and communicate with, and who can tell you things about yourself you didn't know before. He brings out the best in people, and doesn't expect anything in return for his kindness and generosity. Anyway, what I've done here is taken the guys I've met and put them into categories that any young woman looking for love will come across at some point, and I'll lay out the pros and cons of each - enjoy!
Group #1: Guys at college parties
This type of guy is one that any college girl is most likely to run into on any given outing. Guys you meet at parties are no doubt social and like to have a good time, which is always a plus. What you have to watch out for, however, are the ones who like to have too much fun. I'm speaking, of course, of drunk guys. Now I'm not saying that getting drunk is a crime, but from my own experience I can safely say that any guy who hits on you while stumbling over his own feet is definitely not a keeper. They end up making a fool of themselves and rarely impress a girl who has her head on straight. There is a huge difference between being slightly tipsy (yet still able to keep your composure) and being so blasted that you can't form complete sentences. The latter guy is not someone you want to consider because more frequently the drunken stupor is not a one-time thing. A guy who can only drink to excess to have a good time is someone you will get over quickly when you leave the mystical, alcohol-filled realm of college and enter the real world, where people have jobs and families to attend to, and going out to get wasted happens only on special occasions, not several times a week.
Group #2: Guys at the gym
Guys at the gym, whether they're body builders or just there for the health benefits, obviously care enough about their own well-being, as well as how other people view them, to constitute a genuinely good person. Of course, there are always extremes. A guy who is completely roided up with big muscles and veins bulging out all over the place definitely cares a lot about his body, maybe too much. Guys like this should be avoided, unless you're also an extreme fitness buff, because they may let their view of physical perfection leak into a relationship, and may end up hurting your feelings, whether they intend to or not. A guy who hits on you in the gym has no doubt spent the last 5 minutes checking out your body, so watch out for superficiality. I've found that the best way to blow a guy off in the gym is to keep focused on your workout, and not give him a second thought, because if you didn't come to the gym looking for a hook-up, you shouldn't appear that way either. If the guy doesn't leave you alone, you should consider going to work out at a different time.
Group #3: Guys in night clubs
When you go to a club, you're surrounded by people dancing and having a blast. A guy who frequents night clubs will definitely know how to have fun, as well as burn calories :) But just like guys in the gym, guys who hit on you (or just come up to you and try to get their freak on) in a night club are not only looking at your body, but also how it moves. Many guys (and I've actually had guys tell me this) will equate how a girl dances to how she performs in bed. Obviously, an intelligent woman won't fall for a guy who's looking for a one-night stand, or a relationship of nothing more than sex. I would say you'll have better luck with a guy who actually asks you to dance rather than a guy who puts his hands on your hips as he sees fit. On a related note, if a guy offers to buy you a drink, and you're not interested, a good way to gently brush him off is to refuse. Too often to girls think they can just play a guy they don't care for by letting him buy them drinks. Just remember, the more liquor he puts in you, the easier it will be to take advantage of you.
Group #4: Guys with money
A guy who is ready, willing, and able to shower a woman with gifts to show his affections is charming to many. However, some guys think the only way to a woman's heart is with expensive jewelry and fancy restaurants, which is not a good thing. A guy who flashes his pocketbook to prove himself worthy to you is missing out on the best things in a relationship, like just sitting together and talking; things that can't be bought. Though material possessions are attractive to most women, Mr. Right doesn't always bring in a 6-figure salary, and shouldn't think that money is the answer to everything. Material possessions are more often than not a novelty that's just waiting to wear off, and when it's all said and done, you find your relationship is somewhat meaningless. No matter how much you try to dispute it, one thing remains true - you can't buy love.
Group #5: Guys in class
Out of all the groups mentioned thus far, guys in your classes are most likely going to be the smartest. A big turn-on for many women is intelligence, and guys in your classes will, for the most part, have some of that. Most guys use the "Did you do the homework?" approach, which is fine by my standards. It's a lot better than seeing a guy stare at your body and not listen to a word you say. The only negative thing I've seen with guys from this group is that sometimes they mistake wanting a study buddy for wanting a relationship, so be careful what you say and do if all you want is someone to study with.