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| Love -- Part III I personally don�t believe that men and careers are incompatible. I think we as women are capable of handling many things at once (training for children), and the notion that you have to do one thing as a time, career only, husband search only, just doesn�t fly with me. I think you need balance in your life to be happy, and a career and a man are just two of the pieces that make up the whole happy package. That said, I do feel that children are another matter. Now, I am a child of the 60�s, I grew up in the 70�s among bra-burners and other radical feminists, and I always thought that I would have a career and children all at the same time. But, as I get older, my views have changed. I think that if possible (and it usually is) one parent should stay home to raise the children. Husband or wife, I don�t care which. Take turns, whatever works. Why bring a child into the world, then hand it over to day care workers to raise? It�s like working 10-12 hour days, and getting a puppy because you are lonely. So, for the 1 hour a day that you are home, awake, and not doing other things, you play and pet and enjoy your puppy. But, for the other 23 hours, your puppy is lonely, bored, neglected and prone to chewing, scratching and jumping. Bad dog? No, bad owner. Time is the most important thing we can give our children (and pets), not money, new clothes or toys, or expensive birthday parties. Just being there, to watch them grow up, learn, explore, breathe and sleep, that�s the ticket and payback, all rolled into one. continued... |
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