when you love someone
if you love someone , when's the right time to sleep with your partner?
should it be after a year of being steady or after a month of having known your lover?
should you go all the way before you walk misty-eyed down the aisle
or after your love been signed in ink and blessed by the church?
is sex then a gauge of love?does love beget sex or sex begets love?
tough huh, i know.
answers vary from what you believe in and stands for beliefs
and principles which are influenced by your family friends and environment.
but with all these it's you who should draw the line, not some books,
not some tradition,not them...but YOU.
true, time plays a significant role in a relationship.
you'd get to know your partner's personality through the times you both spent together
.but does a longer engagement enable you to know him that well?
how about five of long distance relationship?
would that weigh heavier than five months of constant conversation?
again, situation varies. time here connotes not the number of years,
but it insinuates the quality time you both have after disagreeing
to incessantly agree with each other.assuming you already know him,
plus that honest feeling that you love him,
should you give your all before the scratched line " I DO"?
Hmmm, if you believe in
sex as one of the thousand ways to express that vague,
mushy feeling called "love", then "i do"agree with you.
love is so abstract?that's actually an underestimation.
you ought to let that feeling known to your partner.
you ought to concretise love through your actions.
sending romantic text messages through the airwaves
is one act of love,(a little bit pricey though).
compromises and sacrifices (but not being stupid)
are also counted in.patience and kindness
(and among others) sighted in CORINTHIANS 13
are brilliant signs that love is at work.
and the list is endless. for so long as you
honestly making love with your partner,
that's valid. but if you spend the night with your boyfriend,
just to satisfy that oozing carnal desire and
explore your sexuality,that's another story,
if you go around telling people that you got down
with your date since you already love him,
but deep inside you know that you were racing with your hormones,
then, you are cheating yourself!
you can fool others but definitely not yourself.
now ,if you have sex with your boyfriend but it turns that
you're not meant to grow old together,
then, should you regret those nights? should you curse your boyfriend?
question your fate? you should regret it if your hormones rule over
your rational thinking. you should blame yourself (not that nasty boyfriend)
if you did it with experimentation.
you should question your values ( not fate)
if you weren't honest with yourself.
but if you give all your self to him believing he's special,
try to work the relationship out
and you both better off to say goodbye.
then you shouldn't feel less of a person.
if you don't end up with him just be contented,
because you gave love and were loved even just for a while.
the genuine feeling that make you smile telling you grandkids,
"ahh that guy, though we didn't end up together,
i know we've shared some precious time.
so love expressed through sex before any eternal vows is not immoral.
yanking off every guy you met and justifying that sexual activities
by some im-only-human-bound-to-be-tempted reasons is immoral.
WHY? SEX is the ultimate act of trust.
you just don't trust every hot sexy guy you had dinner with.
Regarding virginity is a gift to your husband,
that man is one damn lucky guy. And i salute
those who were able to chastise themselves until marriage.
Just imagine this,you flash that triumphant
smile as you wear that exquisitely designed pure white bridal gown,
you proudly im-the-first-guy-to-touch-her partner
eagerly waiting at the altar and those impatient
i-told-you-that-couple-really-meant-for-each-other-wellwishers
standing on every corner all make a near perfect wedding.
Dont you think so?It does , it really does.But reality check?
Saving yourself for that one true guy is not an assurance that
he's going to stick around as long as you both shall live.
If you believe sharing your first night
in some fancy island is a promise that he'll be yours until you both lost your teeth,
you better wake up,
VIRGINITY,does not make up the totality of your being
and if that guy married you for that reason alone,
then he's just one chauvinistic, egocentric,oh-so-loser guy.
You see when feelings turn cold,love warms it up not sex,
when fights heat up, love calms it down not sex,
when problem comes, love finds a way not sex,
when things go wrong,love understands not sex,
when hope is fading, love inspires not sex.
when faith is waning, love trust not sex.
at the end of the day, love still prevails...
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