Some of them are so basic and simple you may wonder why they are there. Trust me... they have come up at parties.
1. Respect ALL other party guests and their boundaries. Remember that NO MEANS NO! The 1st time it's said. It is not ok to touch anyone without asking EVER... it is not ok to join into group play without asking or being invited.
2. Drugs are not permitted - bring them and you may find yourself ousted without a refund and off all future lists. Alcohol is permitted, but Drunkenness is not. ***IF A PERSON BECOMES INEIBRIATED TO THE POINT OF IMPAIREDMENT AND CANNOT DRIVE THEN THEY WILL NOT BE ALLOWED TO LEAVE THE PREMISE ANYONE THAT VIOLATES THIS POLICY WILL IMMEDIATELY HAVE THEIR MEMBERSHIP REVOKED **** (FYI - Alcohol may 'loosen up' some inhibitions, but it changes your body chemistry and makes us taste sour/nasty, not only skin, but also your juices. Citrus juices/fruit brings out the sweetness in us all.) Depending on the facility smoking is only allowed � some inside and some outside only if at all and is generally not a good idea... not only does it smell bad, it stinks up your breath, skin and hair.
3. Voyeurism is fine, in small quantities, at a respectable distance, just remember, this is not a peep show, but a gathering for consenting Adults who want to meet others of open minds for a nice, active, evening of fun. Do not crowd a scene.
4. Always refrain from loud conversations in play areas and/or discussions not pertaining to any activities you may be exposed to at the party, as these are distracting for those who are in the moment and concentrating on orgasms and pleasuring. Do not comment about activities to others or about others in any way before during or after a party. It is an atmosphere of tolerance and each individual has a right to enjoy pleasure in whichever way they choose.
5. Respect each other's privacy and anonymity. Many of us are professionals and have families. On the internet many people use nicknames... however.. After meeting a person they may reveal to you their real name.. ask them how they would like to be addressed and never... never... never... use real names on public post boards unless permission is specifically asked for and given beforehand.
6. Be Clean and Neat! Remember, how you look/smell will determine how others see/react to you, take Pride in how you present yourself. Always shower before leaving home, don't show up after a day at a street fair or the beach without showering first
7. Condoms and safety supplies. Most parties provide condoms and lubes. Some parties even provide toys. It is a good idea to always bring your own just in case... for several reasons.. if the hosts run out... if you are allergic to mainstream products... and if you have special larger size needs. Always clean up after yourself putting used condoms/dams in trash receptacles. If you have used toys that are available... use them with condoms and wash them with warm soapy water or cleaner if it is provided after use, and don't forget to rinse and dry them completely, returning them to where you found them for others to use.
8. Anyone caught taking anything that's not their own property, or that they did not bring themselves, will be dealt with immediately and harshly! The swingers� community is a close-knit one that watches out for each other so beware.
9. Always call or email to let the hosts know if you can't make it. Do not just NOT show up... we've all had frustrating experiences with flakes. The hosts organizing these parties deserve some respect for all their hard work and if they know (even last minute) that there are spaces open, they will have the opportunity to fill them with those last minute hopeful RSVP's. ******This rule also applies to individual meetings that you have set up with group members. If you were intrigued by someone enough to have made plans to meet them then give them the common curtsey of a call or email in a timely manner if you are unable to make that meeting.*********
10. Never contact a hotel directly for directions or otherwise. If you have questions about directions, attire, room amenities, etc. contact the host/hostess with those questions. When entering and leaving hotels and passing through lobbies or common areas, do be covered up and do refrain from loud noises, laughter, sex talk and big groups.
11. Pay attention to the invitation. If it says BYOB then bring what you want to drink. If it says to contact the hosts for more information or an invite - do not post a reply message in the groups, etc.
12. If there is a donation involved, bring exact change in cash or risk being turned away at the door. If you attend a swing party requiring a donation and by the end of the night don't play do not ask for or expect a refund. Play is not guaranteed at a swing party. Some hosts may provide a refund if you get there and not more than two minutes into it you realize that this is not the place for you. If this is something you are concerned about, if its your first time swinging or at that particular party/venue, talk to the hosts beforehand and express to them your concerns and desire to "check things out" before deciding to stay - never assume and always ask what their policies are. These parties don't make tons of cash... mostly the hosts do this for love of the lifestyle and the donations only cover the costs of the room, food and supplies.
13. Parking is sometimes limited, if at all possible carpool.
14. Cameras or recording devices of any kind are strictly prohibited. The party hosts will tell you up front if they are taking pictures or video for websites, etc. and you always have the right to ask that either your image not be used completely or that your face be blotted out so that you are unrecognizable. If this is an issue for you � ASK beforehand.
15. Again, the swingers community is a close knit one and people will talk about how people act, if they are pushy, unclean, or if they do not play safe or by the rules... We all want to be invited back... so please follow the rules and be your sexy self.
