Golden Rule Number 1. Listen to her body
Our Society puts a lot of pressure around the event of sex. The movies and TV shows have turned a fun sharing time into a tense and sometimes even competitive time. Women sometimes feel like they are too slow. Or maybe, the woman want her lover to feel good about himself. Or maybe, a woman feels like she is excited as she is going to get. There a lot of reason that women feel pressured into using deception. These deceptions can even go as far as the faking of orgasms. Some women have become masters at pretending to be in the midst of passion. They can be very convincing.
This deception will destroy any attempts to progress through the steps. If I sense any anxiety or hint of deception in my partner, I try to assure her that above all, I want her to be honest with me. If I can't bring her to an orgasm, I would like for her to tell me. If I am the worst lover in the world, I have to know. I don't want some lady to try to make me think something different than reality. If I know that I am doing something wrong, I can improve it. But, if I do not know, I will keep doing what I am doing. This attitude can be very dangerous to one's ego. If you ask a woman what she thinks, be prepared to hear it. A lot of men can not handle the truth. However, it is critical to start from a honest base. If you don't know what a woman is really feeling, then it is difficult to proceed.
Now, here is where this golden rule becomes important. Stop the deception. Don't listen to a woman's words, moans and groans as a source of how excited she is. LISTEN TO HER BODY. She may be groaning and moaning like a sex manic and still be on step 6 or 7. It may be that she thinks that you want her to act this way. Since I have always been very honest with my partners, for me I find that this behaviour is due to plain ignorance. They believe that this is all there is. No wonder, they feel that sex is overrated. They have seen how they are suppose to act from TV, and therefore believe that they can find bliss by doing the same moans and groans.
So this rule is critical: LISTEN TO HER BODY. A woman can fake a lot of things, but she has a much more difficult time affecting her physical state. Has her rate of breathing changed? Has her heart changed. Are the fine hair on her tummy lifted away from the skin? Is her labia enlarging with blood or is it normal size? These are the type of physical characteristics that the 36 Step Approach is based on. If you can't see the physical signs of the step that you think that you are on, then back up to the correct step and start again.
I will leave you with a little warning. It is not always easy to slow down a woman. If a beautiful woman thinks that she is hot and ready, then she can VERY convincing. And, if you are not attempting to maximize her pleasure, go for it. However, if you are trying to stay withing the steps, you have to slow her down. When a woman breaks through step 30, she will understand how she just thought that she wanted it before. I have seen mild mannered women act like their life depending on getting it, LITERALLY. So if she thinks that she is hot at step 6, she will be uncontrollable at 30.
Instead, you need to totally believe with all of your body and soul that for this time and place, she is a goddess. She is a woman above all other women and deserves to be worshiped and adored. Her perspiration is the nectar of the gods. Her voice is the most wonderful sound in the world. Just listening to her creates a paradise where you could live forever.
This is not a lie. If you didn't think that she was wonderful, then you shouldn't be there. Now all you have to do is drop the logic and pick up the emotion. It is all in the mind. As you start down the road, you will feel yourself become more and more attracted to her AS A PERSON. You will become attracted to every piece of her. Let yourself become a slave to that beauty.
This Golden rule tends to blend with the 1st Principle. However, at the risk of repeating information, I will mention it here as well. When you are a slave to her beauty, you will love ever part of her equally. This means that you will love her finger tips as much as her breasts or butt. I have found women are different from men. A man can be happy if a woman goes right to his zipper and starts to work. Whereas a woman does not generally have the same reaction.
Women like to feel loved and respected as a person beyond their sexual value. One way of showing her that you feel this way is to spend some time early on stroking her arms, kissing her fingertips. In fact, I will generally ignore anything that she sees as even partially sexually for the first 30 minutes. I will rub her feet, or rub her back. Generally I can tell when a woman has crossed the line from where she needs respect to where she wants sex.
There are three things that this rule adds to the process on a regular basis. One, it helps the man get closer emotional. When you let yourself feel this adoration, it changes something inside of you. It makes you realize how special she really is to you beyond the size of her breasts.
Second, it makes a woman feel loved as a person. She will feel more comfortable with the setting. The more relaxed that she is the better she will proceed.
Third, every woman generally has something that they think make them less attractive. (something from childhood I guess) It is strange. Most times, I would never know it if they don't bring it up. However, if you are so head over heels with her that you think that her elbows are lovable, then you might not mind that she has ugly XXX (fill in the blank). The more relaxed the lady is with her body the more she can enjoy the experience.
Remember, it is a mindset. MAKE HER THE MOST SPECIAL PERSON IN THE WORLD.
First, if your lady's mind is full of work or upsetness, she will be very limited. I see some men that expect their ladies to be hot for them regardless of what the lady has on her mind. There are a lot of men that think this way. On the other hand, a dinner and a romantic moonlit stroll can relax and even distract a woman's mind to prepare her for the evening. These techniques give her mind some clues of what will happen. As her mind starts to prepare for the event, her body will start to prepare as well. If you don't believe it, test it out. Give your lady an evening then start the steps. On another night, surprise her. Which evening gave you the best results?
Second, old memories can take away current physical pleasure. If a lady has experienced sexual abuse or rape (even as a child), it can have very unpleasant effects on the current day. If you trigger some memory, it has to be dealt with to proceed. There is very little chance of moving through the steps without clearing the problem.
Golden Rule Number 2. Make her the most special person in the world
This rule can easily be misunderstood. It is important to note that the rule does not read "Make her think" or "Act like she is". It says "MAKE HER THE MOST SPECIAL PERSON IN THE WORLD". Therefore, it does not suggest that you start to learn the cheap bar line or that you flood her with shallow flattery to try to trick her into giving you what you want. These techniques are those of the inexperienced or the scumlife that walks our streets. Unfortunely these techniques are so widely used that women have to make judgements every day over when it is real and when it is fake. Don't ever give out false compliments. It will evenually destroy your creditibility.
Golden Rule Number 3. Mental always comes before the Physical
This rule is the broadest of three. If the mind is not prepared, then the body will not be able to enjoy the night. The 5th Principle actually explains how a woman's mind can be conditioned to have even stronger sexual responses. Even with the lady's knowledge, the conditioning can help her to move through the lower steps faster. For here, I want to cover this subject in two broad areas.
