| In 1966 a tragedy befell my family ( a family that had already been through a divorce, and a stint in foster care) a fatal tragedy that shattered four young lives. Suddenly thier lives were flipped upside down, as they were sent to live with an unemotional and detached father and his new wife. Instead of helping his children through this tragedy he remained closed off. Thier lives were affected even further by this unaffectionate environment. The tragedy has since come full circle as my grandfather has passed away. I must say I'm almost glad because maybe my family may finally begin to heal. I know this sounds mean but he made those poor kids miserable and none of them have recovered instead they have become in some cases just as unattached and unemotional. It's been hard for any of them to even get attached to anyone hold serious relationships or even raise thier own children. My grandfather should have communicated with his children and helped them understand what had happened. I think what he did was almost more traumatic than the event it self. His own widow put it best when she said " A man shouldn't have so many children if he can't take proper care of them . " But then again if she was so concerned why didn't she do anything about it? |