Anju
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| This beautiful Eulogy was given at the Wake on Wednesday, December 13, 2000 by Deepika's lovely sister Anjana. | |||||||||||||||
| Thank you all for coming. Your presence here tonight with all your support means so much to us. But most importantly your gentle touch and heartfelt compassion for our family during this most sorrowful time has been invaluable. There are not enough words toThank You. | |||||||||||||||
| We stand here on behalf of our family to share a few thoughts and words for Deepika | |||||||||||||||
| We come here tonight to mourn the loss of our daughter, wife, sister, cherished member of the family and friend. We grieve for our loss and for our inability to spare each other a pain so deep and wide that words fail to express its true size. | |||||||||||||||
| Every once in a while a person will come into your life and succeed in changing your entire outlook or cause you to rediscover passions long buried. That was the effect that Deepika had on us. Her passion for life was remarkable especially when you consider that pain that She was constantly experiencing. | |||||||||||||||
| Take solace in the fact that She brought love, kindness, inner strength and deep understanding to this world and that She made all of us appreciate the value of fragile life and our time in it. | |||||||||||||||
| I know that God has other plans for my Sister but I am selfish and would do anything to have Her back. The hardest thing to say and the hardest thing to accept is that She is gone forever from our lives. | |||||||||||||||
| Yet I stand here and I have already begun to heal and I ask each of you to work with my family and me so that we can help each other. Let us remember the good times. Let us remember the things that made her so special. | |||||||||||||||
| To me Her finest qualities were Her tolerance for others and the size of Her heart. | |||||||||||||||
| She had such a tolerance for others and I think that's why She had so many friends. She enjoyed you for who you are and never for what She felt you should be. But always She wanted to learn just a little more from others. Each time She did this she grew just a little bit. | |||||||||||||||
| Deepika had such a large heart. She wore it so openly for all to see. I cannot justly describe it but those of you whose lives She touched, those of you that truly know her... I know you felt its power. | |||||||||||||||
| My Mommy always described Deepika as being very stubborn. To Her very last day She insisted on struggling to do things for Herself. She never did want to burden anybody else, not even Her own family. To Deepika I want to say, it was always such a pleasure and it was an honour to be able to do anything for You. I just hope now that we could have done more. | |||||||||||||||
| One thing that touched me deeply was Her vulnerability, the things that made Her cry. For herself - never feeling self-pity but always attuned to the pains of others. Her vulnerability contrasted beautifully with Her strength. | |||||||||||||||
| My feelings of love for Her that go much deeper are triggered not just by those things that I mentioned but also by more subtle things; Her beautiful smile that was Her trademark. She was always smiling. I remember the last time She smiled at me. I am so amazed that despite going through so much She held her head high and gave me such a sweet smile. I shall treasure this memory forever. | |||||||||||||||
| I admired Deepika for the things She could do, Her talents, Her strengths, and Her abilities. I loved Her for Her caring ways, Her enthusiasm and for the way She looked at us and the beautiful things She said. And finally Her heroic efforts to go on with life. I'll love and cherish You forever. | |||||||||||||||
| I cannot finish without also paying tribute to all our family and friends especially all the nurses and doctors who never gave up hope and fought with Her till the very end. | |||||||||||||||
| To Daddy, Mommy, and Chiragpatel: You did everything you could possibly do to make Her happy. I know that if She was here, She would bow her head and say, 'It's been a beautiful life. Thank you for giving me this life and teaching me how to Love.' Chiragpatel you have been the perfect husband and soul mate. I know now the true meaning of the sacred vow 'till death do us part.' You have been with Deepika every step of the way and I respect and honour you so much for this. | |||||||||||||||
| With this I ask all of you to pass on Deepika's legacy of love and affection not only to your family but to all that come in your touch. There could not be a better homage to Her cherished memory. Her spirit I know will live on through the people that She touched. I miss Her already and the loss is tremendous but I think that Her memory should be towards the celebration of life. | |||||||||||||||
| So with this I shall wait patiently to reunite with You. Because waiting a life time is a short time to wait for an eternity with someone you Love. | |||||||||||||||
| Goodbye..."Bikie"...sleep well my sister Anju |
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