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Father #1
Dear Mak, My parents are divorced and my dad used to come by almost every day to check on us. He called us a lot too. Then one day he got a new job (he always worked at restaurants) and he only came once a month. Pretty soon he stopped coming at all. Two months later, his manager called us and when my mom picked up the phone, he said, "Are you Ken's wife?" My mom said no and that they divorced a long time ago. Then the manager told my mom that my dad hadn't been coming to work for the last few months. So after I learned that I tried calling his cellphone, but his line was cut off. My dad is known for being a BIG liar, so I'm pretty ashamed of him. But I don't know how I'm supposed to feel right now. Should I be worried, angry, disgusted, or what? Should I want a NEW dad because sometimes I feel sorry for him and that's the only reason I DON'T want one. - Anonymous 
You have every right to be upset. But don't let that make you angry at your father. After all, you still don't know the reason for him leaving his job. And you don't know the reason he's not calling you anymore. If you're keeping in touch with anybody on your father's side of the family, I'd suggest that you ask them if they've heard from him. I know you'd probably feel guilty for wanting a new father, but your mother may want to move on. If she does, then you should let her and accept that she might re-marry one day. Feeling sorry for your father isn't exactly the right thing either. You don't even know what's happened to him, so you can't feel sorry for him. I hope this helps; feel free to email me back. - Mak - main |