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| Pornography Pornography is almost every mans battle. Why do I say every "man" and not mention "woman"? Instinctively, women respond sexually to emotional comfort, closeness and human contact as well as "looks". Although men, including myself, enjoy that as well, we tend to find physical beauty (looks) nakedness, lingerie, makeup, etc. as sexually stimulating......... much more so than women. For men, to look at several different images of nude women or maybe even engaged in sexual activities not only stimulating but very, very addictive. I speak of these things as a man who has struggled with this "yo-yo war" since age fifteen. I speak as one who is currently studying it's effects into men�s lives. In our current time especially, through cable television, payper view movies, and especially the Internet, pornography is easily available to not only adults (free on the internet) but easily accessible to children as well. Young men, who go through puberty as early as 14 years old, will naturally become curious about what women look like underneath their clothing. This is a very normal development stage in a young mans life. The internet being the "worldly" source of all knowledge, is a discrete and popular source to fulfill these curiosities. Not only can they view these images, but also learn about bisexuality and other terrible things in the way of visualization and in depth distorted articles associating it with "love". It's very sad, very evil and unfortunately very, very real. I believe that pornography is the source of young adults wanting to experiment with more than one lover. I cannot stress to parents enough how important it is to monitor the activities of your children while they are online. This isn't a lack of trust issue. Do not feel "guilty" letting your children know you are watching them, you are battling the devil, he will take every available opportunity to snag us, especially at young ages. One day your child will understand why you were strict. Also, be aware that chat rooms are an obvious source of danger for children. Pedophiles and sexually immoral people thrive and find each other in these innocently titled "chat rooms". With the click of a button (clicking on a persons profile) you might view him/her posing in a nude picture to lure the opposite/same sex into conversation with them. Many people could care less that your child is a minor when engaging in "one on one" conversation. Don't be mislead into thinking that all men outgrow pornography. I know personally of several "Christian" men who also fight this disease. The Promise Keepers, a large group of several thousand Christian men who come together and pray in sport arenas, when asked if they have participated in the viewing of porn within the last week, 60% of them raised their hand. It's real, it's addictive and it's almost everyman�s struggle at least at one point in time in our lives. Is Cyber pornography? Yes! Any man made, lust inducing, sexually explicit reference to human contact is in my opinion, pornography. Easily overlooked and easily defended as "just a book", romance novels are also a form of pornography that many women associate into their lives. Ladies be warned, God does not smile upon you when you "fantasize" either. How to turn away from Pornography I feel this section will be especially helpful to men. I am speaking as a single man who does not currently date nor is involved sexually with a woman. You might look at my situation as especially "tempting" to turn to pornography for comfort in loneliness. Perhaps you might relate. Step 1 Seek Christ Pray and seek guidance from Christ. As with everything......... "Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him and he will guide your paths". Proverbs Step 2 Look at the facts First of all, most women immediately feel inadequate when they find their loved one involved in pornography. How? They compare themselves with the anemic gorgeous women and compare themselves to that. How would you feel if positions were reversed? Secondly, take a look at all the time in your life you are wasting. Look in the mirror; see the lines forming on your face? How many of them formed while you "browsing"? I know some of those pictures take several seconds just to "appear". You can easily kill hours viewing this poison of the soul. That is time you could have been praising God, learning a new hobby, soul searching, you name it. Men, be aware of why some of the women pose and interact in pornography. A lot of these women didn't grow up with loving fathers, some of them grew up with sexually molesting fathers (shudder). The majority of pregnant teens do not have active father figures or male role models of any type. Without the love and guidance of our parents, animal instinct and "worldly" education become our development reality. Feel sorry for these people and don't line the wallets of those who profit from these abominations. Realize you are helping to financially support sin by simply viewing this crap. The more you look, the more you make it popular. The more popular it becomes, the more it is produced. The more it's produced, the more lives it touches. Period! Step 3 Know that those who participate in sexual immorality will not inherit the kingdom of God We must repent or quit the things that we know are wrong to see the gates of heaven. What else need be said? |