| I had a work experience a little while ago I thought you might appreciate. I had my first in-class evaluation at the jr. high. I was pretty nervous, but found out that they thought I was a "good teacher who seemed to care about the students." | My primary job at this point in history (in case you read this substantially after October 2003) was that of assistant language teacher at a junior high school in Saitama, Japan. It was maybe the second time in my entire life I can recall really caring about a job. |
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| Flying high on that, I went to Ikebukuro (the part of Tokyo where I work at the crappy conversation school) and decided to spend 43 of the 45 minutes before my first class browsing in a bookstore. I roll into work with two minutes to spare, and find my manager smiling at me like he'd rather tear out my throat. I step into my cubicle, meet my student, and teach my lesson, only to find that he's cancelled all my other students for the night. Naturally, I figure he's trying to tell me something, since I can hear him seething over my shoulder as I type up the class record. He summons me to the back room, then takes a few minutes to let me wait for him. Presumably a move intended to give me time to sweat over the prosect of a dressing down. | (It's worth noting that my new manager started at the company at the same time I did, was previously a failed dot-com/day-trader, was less than impressive as a teacher, and is all of 5'9" and 155 lbs, before you count his stacked-sole shoes. He's not a man that inspires anything even close to fear in me, especially since I was due to receive my first jr high pay check, thus removing his threat to my wallet.) | |
Anyway, he pulled up the manager chair and sat back, fingers tented like Mr. Burns, waiting for me to take the plastic lunch seat. Which I ignored so I could stand and look down on him (that made him mad). After a few seconds of fuming, he finally got to the point: he wanted everyone there 15 minutes early. Quickly realizing that (1) he wanted me to show remorse, contrition and even some fear, and (2) that I truly didn't care what he wanted, I elected to remain calm, convesational in tone, and a bit authoritative by leading the conversation and getting to his next point before he could. |
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For example, his final threat sounded like this:
"This is strike two for you, Sam." |
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| I haven't had anyone so mad at me for quite some time. Of course, I haven't had a crazy girlfriend for quite some time either. But I think I know why he was so pissed and why I felt so good. |
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| He was supposed to be my superior. | But... | I wasn't afraid of him. |
That's a good feeling to have. |
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