These people are definitely in for a rude awakening!!! Just as there are Bi-sexuals same difference. Some people enjoy both sexes at times they feel the need for a man and others a woman. Just as with the Switch sometimes their Dominant side is the strongest force within them then sometimes they have the need to be dominated. This doesn�t mean they are confused or they don�t understand D/s at all. In fact they know exactly what they want when they want it and how to achieve that. The Switch also has a different set of challenges just a Dom/me or just a�straight sub/slave have. They have the challenges of fulfilling both sides of the equation and keeping the line drawn with their partners as to which role they are in at that time. For a true Switch this will come easily or least for me it did. I could flow from Domme to submissive in the blink of an eye. This doesn�t mean there is anything wrong about being a Switch at all just the Switch concept of the BDSM D/s scene can be complex to some but doesn't have to be. All you need is an open mind as with anything in life. And I say �More Power to you� to anyone who can embrace their full selves against all the critics and cynics out there!!
The idea that if you are "really" dominant you can't also be submissive, or vice-versa, rests on the fallacy that these two things are opposed to one another, rather than two facets of the same thing. It also denies the basic and observable fact that human beings--or rather, some human beings--are complex, multi-dimensional creatures capable of a startling array of different emotional and philosophical responses.
But often, the people I have seen most vocally decry the idea of switches are not these people; rather, the most vocal of the "one true way" contingent in the BDSM community is made up of the people who are most insecure.
For some people, their ego and their sense of self are tied up in their identity as a dominant or a submissive. This is particularly true of many dominants, which may use their dominance to shield a weak sense of self or a fragile ego. Suggesting to such a person that he or she may have elements of both dominance and submission, or even that other people can be both dominant and submissive, is very threatening.
When your ego is protected by your sense that you are dominant and there is a clear, distinct difference between dominants and submissives, the notion of someone who switches is as threatening as the notion of bisexuality is to a person unsure of his sexual orientation.
But at the end of the day, the fact still remains that not everyone has an identity or a role which is so cut and dried. Many people (I suspect most people) who practice BDSM are capable of doing so from more than one direction.
By: Biker Bitch � 2006
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