December 1999

The End of Another Year….
     Greetings, friends and family, from the Dallapès. We hope everyone is doing well, and that this season finds you healthy and contented. There has been a lot going on in the last few months—we hardly have had time to stop and take a breath!
Visits, Visits, Visits  This year, we have visited with everyone in our family, some several times. Our most recent visits have come in the last two months..…
     In the middle of October, Suzanne’s sister Judy Wernsing came to visit us. We didn’t do much, since she was just in town for a few days, for a conference, but we spent some quiet hours at home talking.
     Just a few days after Judy left, we packed our bags and went to Illinois. It was almost 2 ½ years since our last trip there (and that long since Jerry had seen his dad), so it was about time. We stayed with Suzanne’s sister Robin Hileman and her husband Shae, and with Jer’s parents, Jerry and Jerilyn Dallape. Rio liked meeting several new cousins that had not yet been born the last time we visited! In addition to seeing various family members, we also had dinner with Jerry’s old high school buddy, Tracy Sargent. Suzanne also went to Southern Illinois University at Edwardsville, and met her old college friend, Carol Sponagle, who she hadn’t seen for five years. We drove around showing Rio all our old homes—we were amazed at how some of them have changed. We stayed five days, and we did so much we almost had to keep schedules for all of the activities!
     Our last visitors were Suzanne’s mom and sister, Roxanne & Allie Bettonville. They came for four days. While they were here, we drove to downtown Salt Lake City to see the amazing lights in Temple Square, and we went up in the mountains. Suzanne and Roxanne also went to a concert by the Utah Symphony.
Other Stuff   November was a very "entertaining" month for Suzanne. In addition to the Utah Symphony concert she saw with Roxanne, she also went to four other concerts! She heard four of her very favorite works (by Ravel and Gershwin), and a fabulous tribute to the Big Band era. And Suzanne and Rio went to a Family Concert where Rio finally got to see his hero, Keith Lockhart. Rio had seen Keith conducting a concert in the park this summer, and had been wanting to meet him ever since. Suzanne had talked to Keith on several occasions, and he had said he was interested in meeting Rio too. They finally met, after the Family Concert a couple of weeks ago, and a photo of their meeting is featured in our year-end Photo Album, included with this newsletter below.
     Our Halloween didn’t go well this year. On Saturday the 30th, we were in Illinois, and we got home very early the next day, Halloween. Since Suzanne didn’t have much time to make an elaborate costume for Rio, he decided to be Keith Lockhart for Halloween, and settled for a tiny tuxedo. When Suzanne and Rio went out trick-or-treating, however, they found that Halloween had already come and go in Utah—yes, the Mormons didn’t like that Halloween was on Sunday, so in Utah it was celebrated a day early! So we missed it this year. Of course, Rio didn’t care one way or another, but Jerry and Suzanne were not happy about it. Suzanne was glad that she had not put a lot of work into a costume—because no one would see it!
The Rio Report      Rio’s latest favorite school subject is geography—he has several puzzle maps of the Untied States, and he has enjoyed putting the maps together. Now he knows where most of the states can be found. He can read many 3-letter words, and can write about half of the letters with no help. He is learning how to spell, too, with the help of a wipe-off board and magnetic letters. He tells the most wonderful stories—in fact, he just won two free Symphony tickets in a story writing contest. The story is on the next page.

Have A Happy New Year, Everyone!

Jerry, Suzanne and Rio Dallapè
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How Seymour Came to Abravanel Hall
By Rio

[NOTE: The Utah Symphony’s mascot is a seagull called Seymour. Recently, they had a story-writing contest in which children were asked to write about how Seymour became the Symphony mascot. Here is Rio’s winning entry.]

     Seymour was mad about his life. He couldn’t talk about that, because he was crying so much. He didn’t have any music. There was no music in his house. He felt sad about that.
     Seymour was walking outside by Abravanel Hall. He heard some music while he was walking. It was pretty. He thought it was so beautiful. He walked in because he liked music. He sat down and the music started. While he was in Abravanel Hall, the instruments played the music again. It was the same music he heard while he was walking. It was nice.
     Seymour decided to live at Abravanel Hall. He had music in his life. He was happy about that. He will live there forever.

The Season of Giving
By Suzanne

      Ah, Christmas…the Season of Giving? Sure. The Season of Obligation? Well, yeah, that too. It seems sometimes that people are so caught up in the necessity of buying gifts in order to cross one more name off of their lists that the quality of the gifts themselves suffers. Often people will panic at the last minute and get things for those "hard-to-buy" folks which end up not getting appreciated. I’m sure that everyone knows what it is like to get a gift that they just don’t want or need. Some people keep these gifts—again, out of obligation ("I have to keep this—it is from Cousin Babs!")—and then are bogged down with clothes they’ll never wear, appliances they’ll never use, and knick-knacks that will only gather dust. Others who prefer a more simple and pared-down life get rid of the offending things at the nearest opportunity. There are several ways to do this—take back to the store in exchange for money or merchandise, put in the yard sale box, give to charity. I am one of those simple people, and have done all of these. But one year I discovered another way to rid myself of unwanted gifts, and this is the best way of all.
     One Christmas half a decade ago, I received a truly heinous article of clothing which was the wrong color, wrong size, wrong style, and just plain ugly. Days later I was headed to the nearest church with the dreadful thing, when I stopped, for two reasons. One, I didn’t like the idea of anyone wearing something this loathsome. Two, I simply didn’t want the manufacturer to get paid for it! No use in encouraging people to keep making things like this. No sir! So I turned right back around and marched to a department store, determined to get my money for it.
     As I stood in the return line which was very long (for others had had the same idea), I shivered in excitement over what I might do with the money. What would I buy? Few feelings are greater than the anticipation of getting money! Then it occurred to me that I didn’t necessarily have to keep the cash. I know it sounds insane, but I’d been about to give the gift to charity anyway, after all; it wouldn’t be like I was losing anything. I pondered where I might send the money. Salvation Army? American Cancer Society? Greenpeace? Amid these lofty ideals, I noticed other people standing in line—people in my own community, my peers, so to speak. And that’s when I came upon my Great Idea: I would take the money and give it to the first person I saw upon leaving the store!
     The more I thought of it, the better mood I got in. I got pushed around in line, and someone even cut ahead of me, but every time I thought about what I was going to do, I got happy again.
     The moment came. I took my money and a deep breath, and left the store. The first person I saw was a lady, bundled up against the Illinois cold. I dove right in.
     "Excuse me, ma’am," I said, "I decided this year that I would return my Christmas presents and give the money to the first person I saw upon leaving the store. Well, ma’am, you are the first person I saw, and I’d be really happy if you’d take this." Of course she looked at me strangely, and I had to repeat my plan a bit, but, after some persuasion, she look the money, laughing. She and I parted, each happy for our own reasons.
     Wow. Giving money to a total stranger for absolutely no reason is one of the most mind-blowing trips you can imagine! What a high! What’s even better is the kick I get out of imagining the rest of her day: she goes home, tells the husband and kids what happened, and that makes THEM happy too. They tell their friends about it, and the cycle continues. With one small gesture, I provided entertainment to probably everyone this woman and her family came in contact with for weeks thereafter. I bet she still thinks of me every Christmas. I bet this year she will tell the story at her Christmas gathering, and I bet everyone will feel warm and happy too. Talk about a gift that keeps on giving!
     Someday, maybe people will pay less attention to crossing names off of their lists, and will instead engage in the ordinary, everyday gestures which REALLY mean something to others. Until then, however, bring on the gifts—the mall closes at nine!

Our Year
In Pictures
1999

The Dallapè Family

Heather & Ted visited in January

Left to right: Suzanne, Jerry,
Heather, Rio, & Ted

(Do we look a bit tired?
It was very early!)

 

 

Rio wants to be Ted!





Suzanne & Rio went to California in February

 

 

Rio loves
Grandpa Jim!

The weather was
good enough to
go to the beach!

 

In the spring, we moved across town!



This is our new house








Jim & Allie visited in July

 

Left to right: Suzanne, Jerry,
Allie holding Rio, and Jim



 

 

 

 

Jerry in his STAR WARS room!

 

 

Suzanne got to know Keith Lockhart…and Rio met him too!











We visited Illinois in October

Jerry’s family, left to right: Ted, Heather, Ryan, Dwayne (back), Sherie & Mason, Jerry & Rio, Clayton (front), Laura & Emily, Hannah (front), Chrissy & Gavin, Suzanne (front), Robbie, and Jerilyn.

 








With Robin & Shae.

 

Roxanne & Allie visited in November

Temple Square at night.








Suzanne and
Roxanne dress up
for the Symphony.








We hope you like this picture album.

Have a happy new year!

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