TO SERVE THE DAGGERS

One of the complications that arise from being a 2-dom couple is that we sort of have to go outside of the marriage to find victims—er—subs. Now we aren’t swingers and we have a hard and fast rule that we only fool around together, which means we don’t play separately. And we aren’t into harem-building, but we realize that real life tends to intrude. People have work and family obligations and sometimes (as none of us are getting any younger) health problems as well which keep them from playing at any given time. The idea that a sub can be expected to drop these things to be at the dungeon, no matter what event is planned, is pure bullshit and the doms who expect that sort of thing are bullshit people. And, since our sense of humor sometimes requires a third party or more to carry out something, (event X is happening in town and we have this GREAT prank planned tee hee hee…) it’s good to have a pool of people to call upon.

Anyway, that boring stuff aside, what do we look for in a submissive?

First off, she has to be a biological female. I am extremely het and this is a hard requirement. And it helps if she is bi because Donna is. As we only play together, there is no way around this. Our view is that even without penetration, bdsm is inherintly sexual in its nature and thus, for me, playing with a man, or even a pre-op TS, is out of the question. This has nothing to do with anyone’s value as a human being. It is simply a fact of life with us.

Second, it is important to have a sense of humor about all this. I know that is a cliche, but I mean it! If a sub is into the Alexander Solzhenitsyn school of BDSM we just aren’t going to click.

Third, a good pain tolerance and physical flexibility is important because we may very well tie her up into a pretzel before doing various nasty things to her body.

Fourth, she has to be comfortable with her body and able to be totally naked with her hands tied behind her in a room full of clothed people and still manage to hold a decent conversation.

Now for some details.

There are a few general rules we follow with a submissive, as opposed to a bottom.

1: The only time she is on furniture with us at a playspace is if she is tied, usually to it, but definitely in some kind of bondage. Otherwise she kneels or sits on the floor. This rule only applies in a playspace or at a party. We don’t expect her to kneel in a restaurant. The floors are sometimes dirty and if the waitress trips over her it is not conducive to getting good service.

2: Clothing and lack thereof. We aren’t persnicketty in demanding what type of clothing she will wear, though it helps if she looks attractive. Personally, fetish wear does absolutely nothing for me and I get bored with it real fast, so the only hard rule about clothing is that it comes off easily. That is important because the sub is always naked at play and often before and afterwards. And I mean naked, no bra and panties, no corset, no thong, no shoes, naked. That is not negotiable. And it is of no importance if, or how many, other people are in the playspace, nor is it important who is watching there. If we want her naked, she will be naked.

3: Obedience! We don’t like to argue.

4: Punctuality. We don’t like to wait and lateness is punished, the usual rule being one swat with the paddle for every minute.

Anyway, that is a basic overview of what it means to be involved with the Dagger clan.