WHY YOU DON’T SEE ME DEBATE VERY MUCH

 

Simple.  I just don’t care any more.

 

Ok, I know I said that years ago, but this time I really mean it.  I just don’t give a bloody damn what anyone thinks any more.  I’m tired of them.

 

I’m tired of arguing the same stuff over and over again.

 

You see people have two weaknesses, they need to be right and they need to justify being right.  In other words, they rarely just do something and then respond to someone who disagrees with, “Do you think you can stop me?”

 

And yet this is the proper response.  If they cannot stop you, it really does not matter what they approve or disapprove of.  You can ignore them.  But folks don’t seem to realize that.  They act as though they need the permission of their fellows, or strangers with screen names or the damned “community,” for doing what they want to do.

 

I never fell into that trap.  I’ve never needed permission from anyone.  Hell, I ignored my own parents when they disagreed with me.  I certainly don’t need any psuedo-parental approval from a mailing list or a chat room or an online forum.  Anyone who knows my history in the scene knows that.

 

But I fell into another trap.  I needed to be “right.”  I needed to have others agree with my position and in that I was wrong.  I don’t need that.  No one needs that.  It really honestly does not matter to me if folks agree with me or not.  They cannot affect me in any meaningful way.  The entire national BDSM community, if one should even exist, could disapprove of me, outright hate me, and it would not affect me one little bit.  I would still have my wife, my friends, our subs to play with.  And that would not change no matter what anyone could or would say online.  Oh, there might be some people who would not like me, or would not come to the Slosh, but hell, they would not like me anyway in that case so it’s no great loss.

 

So having no further need of persuading others to follow my path, I find it is much simpler to present its ideas upon this site and my new Chaos BDSM site and leave it for people to choose or reject as they desire.  It is nice if they like it, but is not very important if they do not.  I am not so foolish as to expect any idea, much less my own, to be universally popular.

 

Believe me, it is a lot less work and much easier on the blood pressure.