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| Cyris Questions to Lady Lost: (Just Talk Folks Not The Gospel) @@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ 1) The alleged perp is writing a load in my guest book, he doesn't know I've got a tracker. He's acting like he's other folks. What are your thoughts on this? Well, it's pretty typical of him, I think. In my opinion, it's just another method of stalking that he's using to try to get everyone all upset and it's another slander tactic. I just can't believe anyone else would be loony enough to string such statements together in a manner of implying his accusations have any merit. Despite everything that's happened to me I still believe that most people are good decent human beings with the capacity for logic and empathy. Logic dictates that one thing which it totally unrelated to the A-P's accusations means that those things aren't related, that there's no valid connection there. Only a lunatic would connect unrelated events like what I've seen in the guest book. 2) Let's talk about how you met the alleged perp and started dating him? How'd that happen? I used to visit this girlfriend of mine whenever I got a chance to get out and visit or goof around and the A-P was at her house because he and his family member were arranging to become partners on the house his family member owned. They planned to repair the house, upgrade it, and then sell it for a profit. My girlfriend didn't even know anything about this arrangement at that time even though she was living in that house and as far as I knew most of her paychecks were turned over to pay the bills there. They were doing this deal right behind her back. Anyway, I went over there to visit her this one evening in 2000 and the A-P was there. While she and I acted goofy and got a little tipsy and rode her horse up and down the dirt road, the A-P tagged along. He seemed like a really sweet and funny guy so we didn't mind his company. At that point neither my girlfriend nor I knew about those back stabbing business arrangements that the A-P had made with his family member. Anyways, as time went on, my girlfriend kept telling me how wonderful and sweet the A-P was and how much he liked me, and well, she had a lot more experience with men and dating than I ever did, so I started to believe her. The A-P and I started to become friends and then I dated him. The whole relationship lasted for about four months and then I broke up with him. The rest is rotten history. 3) Now we got a bible-banging writer, an alleged perp alias, here that says never trust a woman that cheats. You think you cheated? Oh Lord, what I did wasn't right in my book and I regret it, but I don't believe I was exactly cheating either. I'd been separated for about three or four years at that time. There was no marital relationship going on and I'd told my legal spouse that I would go out with someone if a really great guy came along. I realize this concept is impossible for most other people to understand. And I suppose it wouldn't help if I added that going out with someone for me doesn't mean a quick or easy relationship. It meant that at this point I'd reserved the right to date in my way with my limits. I never consummated the relationship with the A-P. A lot of absolutely terrible things had occurred in my marriage over years of time that got it to this point. I don't want to get into those things because the A-P has already tried to warp, alter and exploit that whole situation and he has no right to do that. All I can say here is that some terrible things happened and they had nothing to do with any form of child abuse. Others know all about these details and if the A-P continues to try to exploit the truth I'll have to counter this and allow others to counter this also with a full dose of reality. There's plenty of reasonable proof of the reality, which just doesn't involve children in the ways the A-P has claimed. Other than this, I dated the A-P because he seemed like such a nice guy and I felt like it was a chance for me to have a relationship with a real sweetheart. I was fooled and I was wrong. I wouldn't try it ever again, believe me! And I'm not only saying I wouldn't try it again because of the A-P, I'm saying I believe I made a mistake and I wouldn't make the same mistake again. 4) Was your son with you when you saw the alleged perp in 2000? No, never. 5) What do you think of the judging in that cheating note? I believe that only a fool judges a non-predatory person they don't know and only an idiot judges a non-predatory person when they haven't walked in that person's shoes and only an evil person throws stones when we all know every human being on this planet lives in a glass house. We have all made mistakes and we have all sinned. None of us are perfect and you'd have to suffer from some severe form of mental illness to believe that you are perfect. It remains the alleged perpetrators that inflict purposeful and/or deranged harm that we ought to be concerned about. Because these alleged perpetrators such as rapists, child molesters, batterers, stalkers, murderers, serial killers, will harm any victim regardless of how prim and proper that victim may or may not be. These alleged perpetrators harm such a wide variety of victims it's really shortsighted to loose one's vision of this reality. 6) Because lots of folks don't know what consummated means, what did you mean when you said you didn't consummate the relationship with the alleged perp? This means we didn't have completed relations. 7) So you're saying you never had intercourse with the alleged perp? That's blunt and it's correct, I never did. Nonetheless, for other victims who are out there, I don't think this issue is an important one way or another. No one has the right to stalk another person for years and I don't care how much hanky panky went on or didn't go on during the relationship. I believe that affection and romantic contact are different things and that these things can and do occur simultaneously in adult relationships, but most of all I believe that these things are no one else's business. I also believe that any person who would become obsessed with this issue is pretty darn deranged. However, I understand why these questions are presented on this website, which is a different matter as the A-P has already tried to capitalize on every little insignificant detail and non-detail he could find or make up to help him in achieving his sick end goals. 8) Do you think it's right to wait till you're married to consummate a relationship? I do for myself only because I feel like it's the right thing for me. That doesn't mean that it's the right thing for others. And it isn't the right choice for many people and that's OK. I don't judge people and have never judged people negatively or positively over this issue. Every lady and every man needs to do what works for them in this area, it's a very individual choice. 9) Have you always believed this way? Yes. 10) Did you live by your decision before you married? Yes, absolutely. 11) Did the alleged perp know about your legal status? Yes, he sure did. It was never a secret. 12) I got a note in my guest book asking if you've ever been in an institution for being crazy. I need to check it out and see if it's another alleged perp note, I betcha it is. What's you're answer? No I haven't been in an asylum for being crazy. I've never been diagnosed as being insane. I have had severe situational depression, but I'm not out of touch with reality. I've never seen pink elephants in the sky and I don't have psychotic reactions! LOL! I've read that entry and I also believe it came from the A-P. It's interesting to me how there are a whole string of these responses and at the end of them, all these similar ones, there's a note that says something like, "Get your own life and stay out of my life." That just has to come from the A-P. What's truly interesting about it is how he states this after he's had all his utterly sick fun stalking the co-victims and me for over two years. After all the ruins he's created with his stalking and the Easy Pickens we know he's harmed so horribly. But I've gotten over being shocked by his megalomania, narcissism, mental games, domestic terrorism attempts, projections, and his total lack of remorse for any of it. Whatever the A-P may think, there were no websites nor anything else, beyond the police reports and court orders, about this stalking situation for the first two years the co-victims and I were being victimized constantly. And yes the idea of mind puddles under the Christmas tree is morbid and it is an ugly image. Sorry. Basically I can imagine many victims say things similar to this, and I know plenty of veterans that used to make worse jokes about the enemy while they were at war. Being stalked is a lot like being at war, accept you as the co-victim or victim, haven't initiated the war and really don't want to participate in it either. The trouble remains that the perpetrator, the stalker, or the A-P, won't stop and he therefore won't allow you as the victim to live a normal life. That's part of the definition of stalking, they don't stop no matter how many times you say Goodbye to them! Loony tunes like the A-P do apparently feel appalled though when the victim is no longer silenced. 13) Do you have a life? Yes I certainly do. There isn't much discussed about it on any website or in any other public forum because of the A-P and his determination of exploit my reality. But I do have a very full busy life and it's been a real bear to participate in answering these questions and everything else. Copyright � 2002 All rights reserved No rights to copy, print, download, duplicate, or display elsewhere other than upon this specific website granted or implied without the direct written permission of the author. Please contact Cyris at: <[email protected]> **As with all poetry, essays, correspondence and/or published letters, e-mails or other communications presented on this webpage, this work is a personal subjective expression of its author's own feelings, thoughts, beliefs, and opinions. This statement is in no way intended to invalidate or minimize the powerful and poignant experiences of this author. However, this statement is intended to indicate that creative expressions such as these written forms of artwork are derived from their author's own personal feelings, thoughts, beliefs and opinions. @@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ Thanks for the statement Van. Thanks too for the chance to put this interview on my website. @@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@@ |
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