Glorious True Family

Father gave a speech titled "Glorious True Family" when he was 78 years old that sounds exactly like his speeches decades before when he talks about how men and women are radically different.  The following quotes are from this speech that was published in the September issue of the Unification News.  (http://www.tparents.org/Library/Unification/Publications/UNews/Unws9809/SM980809.htm)

Father says, " the concept of the ideal implies absolute, eternal, unchanging and unique. First, absolute; second, unique; third, unchanging and fourth, eternal."  One of Father's favorite words is "absolute."  There are no gray areas in God's truths.  There are only absolutes.  I read Father as teaching over and over that men and women have different positions.  Balance comes from complementing their differences.  Men go out and women stay home.

Convex and Concave

He says, "When God created Adam first, God said it looked lonely. That is why God created Eve as the partner of Adam, after which God said, 'It looks good.' What is the essence of Eve that made God feel good? Was it His creation of her face, eyes, hands, which part of the body? It was the final stage of the creation: the sexual organ. God perfected the ideal of 'convex and concave.' When God created Adam, He shaped Adam’s love organ convex. Then as the partner of Adam’s sexual organ God created Eve with the concave shaped love organ. That was the essence of Eve’s creation from God. Why did God create Adam’s love organ and Eve’s love organ in such a way? He did so because without having them they cannot make love.

"The reason God said it was very good after completing the creation of Eve is because He knew that by having these two different types of sexual organs, which would allow Adam and Eve to unite in love, through their lovemaking God would achieve love too. Thus it was good for God, good for Eve and good for Adam. Centering on what did God say that? Centering on the sexual organ.

"Do not think this is a strange concept; it is not. Because of the human fall, the meaning or concept of the sexual organs became strange, dirty or embarrassing. But in truth the love organ is the origin of life, love and lineage. It is the source of an eternal spring of love. Why did God chase Adam and Eve out of the garden right after their fall? It was because their love organ was contaminated and already destroyed, so God didn’t see any purpose in them."

I read from this that he is teaching that men and women are made physically different to represent their emotional and psychological differences.  All major religions understand this and have made men patriarchs and women homemakers.

Plus and Minus

"Man is to be the plus center, and woman the minus center. This is the way of man and woman harmonizing. If we extend this model, we can see this phenomenon on the surface of the earth, in the mountains and the oceans. Which part of this diagram do you think should represent plus, the lower section or the upper section? [The diagram was a capital M directly above a capital W.] I ask in particular the American ladies here: who is in the position of subject, husband or wife? American women conceive of themselves as subject. Do you follow Father? (Yes; and Father is a man, and this teaches that) the wife is not supposed to walk in front of her husband. You are supposed to follow your husband’s footsteps. It is natural that since usually you are smaller than your husband, your stride is shorter than his and in a normal circumstance you need to make greater effort to keep up with your husband. This simple concept is very important for American women, because the wrong concept here destroys the family, leading to a proliferation of problems."

This is totally politically incorrect.  Only the minority of Americans such as the Baptists and Mormons teach this.  The Pope is strong on not having women be leaders in the Catholic church.  It is beautiful to see their church's leadership get together and there is only men voting on who leads them.  Father constantly blasts American sisters who are feminists and want to be subject and not follow their husbands. He calls this a "simple concept."  Patriarchy is simple.  God is simple.  Fallen man makes the world complicated and disunited.  Because American women have become feminist they have, as Father says, destroyed the family.

Changeable

"Who is in the position to be influenced by the environment more easily, the husband or wife? If there is a beautiful flower, women have a tendency to draw closer and to try to touch it, whereas men stand at a distance and try to figure it out, asking to whom it belongs, what is its name, or analyzing its beauty. So are men or women, husbands or wives, more changeable?

Male or Female God?

"The American woman’s concept, 'woman first,' is not so good. What do you want? Do you want to see God as a female God or male God? [Both.] Father is asking you to make a choice. [Male.] The reason is that man carries the seed of life. Is that true?

Central Position

"Who is in the central position? Between man and woman, who is vertical, man or woman? [Man.] What about woman? [Horizontal.] When this vertical figure, man, and horizontal figure, woman, meet, that angle should be perpendicular. Only true love can establish eternal settlement when it comes to the vertical and horizontal relationship meeting in the center point. Who is bigger in terms of size between man and woman? [Man.] Because man is vertical, he is naturally supposed to be bigger than woman, so when woman sees her love partner, her husband, she goes and embraces him and swings around his neck. Making that 90 degree angle, how beautiful they are."

Students of the Principle cannot interpret the four position as saying that men and women are always in a horizontal relationship to each other. Cain and Abel have a horizontal relationship in a four position also, but obviously Abel is in a more vertical position to Cain. They each have the same value but have different positions of leader and follower. A General has equal value to a Private in the U.S. Army, but they have different roles. Men and women are the same.

Bones and Flesh

Father constantly uses the analogy that men are bones and women are flesh.  He emphasizes that there is no interchanging.  "In terms of the human body, man is in the position of bone, and woman is in the position of flesh. You may argue about why man should be bone and woman flesh. Bone can exist without much water, but flesh is over 70 percent water. That is why woman’s shape is concave, like a container receiving water. The shape of man’s love organ is like a bone. That particular organ should be strong like a bone. Then you can make love and function really well. Suppose that particular organ is like regular flesh, then what will happen? Flesh mixed with bone is man’s sexual organ. Flesh mixed with water is the woman’s body.

"Therefore, I am the combination of bone that I received vertically from my father and flesh that I received horizontally from my mother. The combination of these two, vertical and horizontal, is myself. Which lasts longer, bone or flesh? The vertical being, the bone lasts longer. Who is the vertical figure? The husband. The wife is the horizontal figure. While woman turns around 360 degrees, man is in the center, not going around 360 degrees."

Man-like

He continues saying how men are to be manly or  "man-like": "Do you ladies want your husband to be feminine or masculine? A man-like man is unchangeable. A changeable man is like a woman. The woman’s way is to change easily. I don’t know, but you understand what I am talking about. Again, who is more changeable, man or woman? [Woman.]

"Then do you want to see your husband standing like a rock or pillar, not talking too much but having a stern appearance, or should your husband be more like a pet dog, moving around and around. [Like a pillar.]

MEN LEAVE HOME - WOMEN STAY HOME

"According to Father’s teaching, in our family the wife should be like woman and the husband should be like man. That is the only way we can build ideal, glorious and true families. Between man and woman, who has bigger hips? Why? They are like a cushion for sitting a long time. That is woman’s life. That is natural law. Man’s hips are sharp, therefore he cannot sit a long time and goes out running around and working. How wonderful woman’s place. That is why woman is originally shaped such a way as a gift from God. Therefore if a woman goes out more than her husband, your family, also your nation, will be in crisis." If a woman is to be President and 50 women are to be Senators, they will be women who are "out" of the house. The ultimate representative of men are leaders. Senators and the President are the ultimate bones. Women have no place competing with and dominating men.

MEN ARE KINGS

Men he says, go out and women stay home.  "This good cushion which woman has naturally, women should be able to embrace all the children and grandchildren and eventually present them to the husband and grandparents. So woman is in the queen’s position to raise the children of your own family and tribe. Whereas husband is in the king’s position of the entire nation. That is why the husband is supposed to go out and to move more. Suppose Father just stayed in Korea for God’s providence. Then you wouldn’t have any chance to learn about the reality of the Kingdom of God. Instead, Father came out of Korea and came to America.

CLEARLY KNOW

"So women must clearly know the identity of woman, and man should know clearly man’s identity. And we should know the relationship between man and woman in our family. That is the only way we can build an ideal family centering on true love. Between man and woman, who cries more easily. [Woman.] Why? Because woman always faces four different directions, east, west, north and south, they keep crying. Why? Because of the marriage you have, you shed tears easily, your husband can comfort you and extend his sympathy over you. I will tell you a secret. When the wife makes a small mistake in your family, just shed tears in front of your husband, that is the superhighway through which you can guarantee your husband’s forgiveness and love. Instead of shedding tears, they just keep shouting and lose that marriage privilege. So when the wife starts shedding tears, the husband feels, 'Oh, she must be missing my love.'"

Balance -- Husbands are taller

He mentions the word balance saying, "Think about it if the woman is tall and the man is short, how can they make balance?"  This is true balance.  Fifty percent of marriages are not to have the woman taller than the man.  There are exceptions to this rule of men being taller than their wives, but there are so few exceptions that it is not even worth looking at.  Feminists are wrong in the UC to take a few unusual examples and make sweeping statements for feminism.  I am making sweeping, absolute statements because Father teaches and acts this way.

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