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Finally one day it happens ----- some tawny-skinned 17-year old saunters by in her mini-skirt and tight tee shirt. She is everything we could never be no matter how many pounds we lose or sit-ups we sweat our way through.
We feel discouraged. Some part of us (not a rational part, by the way) feels that it is futile to go on with our efforts since no matter what we do, we're never going to look like Miss Tawny or Bambi or whateverthefuck her name is.
I believe that most significantly overweight women would admit to having become irrational and giving up after comparing themselves unfavorably to a standard they need not embrace to begin with.
Some people are blessed with dewy, flawless skin. Some have perfect teeth. A small percentage have a perfectly porportioned body. Some have a beautiful face. It is the exception rather than the rule for someone to have all of these qualities.
We need to shit can the all or nothing attitude and the impossible standards ---and focus on being the best that we can be.
I'll never have a flat stomach. It was always a weak area to begin with, then I had five kids. That's not a reason to give up entirely. I can always improve even though I won't become some cover girl type.
The fact is, we all have to work with what we've been given. As a woman who is over 6-feet tall, I learned early on that it is futile to try and force your body to be something that your genetics will never allow.
Being the best that we can be is hard enough without trying to be someone else.
