SACRED SEXUALITY
Frequently Asked Questions
What is a whole-body orgasm?
During "normal" sex, you experience what is referred to as a genital orgasm: an orgasm in which the sensations are centered primarily in your genitals, and which usually last only a few seconds. The energy which you raised during sex is dissipated when you experience a genital orgasm -- this is why many people feel drained immediately after sex.
A whole-body orgasm, on the other hand, is an orgasm in which the energy of orgasm is drawn up from the genitals into the rest of the body, and the sacred sex practitioner learns to prolong the experience of orgasm for minutes or even hours. In the whole-body orgasm, the energy raised is not immediately dissipated, but is retained and remains available to the practitioner, leaving them feeling revitalized and alert.
There are a variety of techniques through which sacred sex practitioners learn to experience the whole-body orgasm (see What kinds of techniques are utilized in sacred sexual practice?). There is no single technique which you can use to force your body to have a whole-body orgasm -- everyone's body is different, and you will need to experiment with various techniques (and combination of techniques) to learn which work for you.
How can I get started?
There are many books and videotapes available to those interested in the study of sacred sexuality, and a number of instructors offering workshops and/or personal instruction in various systems. Below, you will find some resources to help you get started.
BOOKS
These are a few books to get you started -- this list is far from complete.
Jewel in the Lotus: The Sexual Path to Higher Consciousness, by Sunyata, Saraswati and Bodhi Avinasha.
Sexual Energy Ecstasy: A Practical Guide to Lovemaking Secrets of the East and West, by David and Ellen Ramsdale.
Sexual Secrets: The Alchemy of Ecstasy, by Nik Douglas and Penny Slinger.
Sacred Sexuality: Living the Vision of the Erotic Spirit, by Georg Feuerstein.
Sex, Magick and Spirit: Enlightenment Through Ecstasy, by Bonnie L. Johnston and Peter L. Schuerman.
The Chinese Sexual Yoga Classics, Including Women's Solo Meditation Texts, trans. Douglas Wile.
The Art of Sexual Ecstasy: The Path of Sacred Sexuality for Western Lovers, by Margo Anand.
INSTRUCTORS:
If you decide to seek an instructor, it is important that you select one who is compatible with your goals and your style of learning. Don't be afraid to interview the instructor before committing to classes, and to check the instructor's references. You can also speak to students who have taken classes with the instructor already, to get a better idea of how the instructor teaches and what you will be learning from him or her.