(An example of a maternity home with "adoption counseling")
It hints of the 1960's and the pregnant girls who were banished to grim maternity homes or wage homes and told by family members not to return home with their babies. As in previous generations there are still many people hoping to adopt. But unlike the 60's, pregnant mothers now more frequently have the support of their families to keep their babies. The solution to "find" more babies?
The Gladney Centers "Dorm" (aka Unwed Mothers Home) is enticing with it's "park-like setting", "beautiful swimming pool" and "cozy fireplace". Surely they must provide real choices to women in the United States in the 21st Century!
Gladney has slick advertising on the web. http://www.adoptionsbygladney.com/index.shtml
Home Sweet Home:
Gladney's New Campus & Residence Hall
According to the Gladney advertisements, "birthparents have more choices than ever before". If they are already calling mothers and fathers the "birth" words, doesn't that imply that it's a foregone conclusion that they are expected to surrender their child?
No where in the Gladney information do they say that one of the choices for a mother and/or father is to keep their child. The choice they offer is which adoption "plan" is choosen and what "parents" are choosen. "You will make an adoption plan." is the message not "You may make an adoption plan." It seems the involvement of the father even in those choices offered is not considered important.
On this page:
http://www.adoptionsbygladney.com/html/about/outreach.html
it states that "an agency adoption is the safest, most effective means of resolving an unplanned pregnancy" with no mention whatever of the harm caused by separating mother and child.
While other mothers are counseled carefully about the importance of a mother spending time with and breast feeding her infant on the child's well-being, a pregnant mother vulnerable to "giving up" her baby to Gladney is still being led to believe her child will be better off without his mother.
Naive young mothers go into this unwed mother's home after having already heard "Everyone benefits from adoption" over and over again - with not a single disadvantage mentioned.
Separated from society to "aid" in decision-making and repeatedly hearing "It's your choice" the mothers will all come out of there saying "It was my choice". Just like robots, their brains will be wired on that track. With their thoughts constrained by the carefully chosen phrases provided by the adoption industry, it may be years before they comprehend that (in the best interest of both mothers and children) the choice to keep their children should have been but was not encouraged.
What is an FOB ?
http://www.adoptionsbygladney.com/html/pregnant/diar_alicia_journ1.html
In this excerpt from a supposed "b____mother diary", note how it's considered acceptable to make the "choice" long before birth and the FOB is dispatched as quickly as possible:
Is every father assumed to be an FOB and shunted off to the side? Is God the Father of Jesus an F.O.B, too? Calling fathers "FOBs" is de-humanizing language similar to but even worse than the term "birthfather" because it is so close to "S.O.B.". Among other things, it may have the impact of pitting a mother against her baby's father, instead of encouraging cooperation.
Pushing frightened fathers to get them to sign something rather than encouraging them to take responsibility for and nurture their child is NOT in the best interests of the child or his/her mother.
Having adopters chosen in advance makes it very hard for a mother to "disappoint" them later when she gives birth and realizes she loves and wants her child more than anything in the world. I know some websites suggest to the adopters actually be present at the birth - it makes it harder for the mom to say "no".
Further down the page:
It's pretty sick, taking advantage of young mothers and fathers like this.
One only need read The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier or adoptee Betty Jean Lifton's Journey of the Adopted Self to see what pain and suffering results from the separation of mothers and their newborns.
George Bush is excited about the bill HR1997 that will essentially overturn Roe v. Wade. One might think it's innocent and truly aimed at helping someone, but it's interesting to know that they are prepared for the onslaught of naive young mothers with this brand new facility all ready and waiting.
They want no unborn victims. I ask that they they protect the born, including of course the natural families of the children.
For information about the involvement of George W. Bush and the Gladney Centers, read this article by W. David Jenkins III
http://www.americaheldhostile.com/ed122802-1.shtml
Click here and scroll down to read about bill HR 7 and funding for Maternity Homes with Adoption "Counseling"