| My Views on Love: First thing's first. My views and definitions are based on experience. Yes, I am naive, and yes you can think that. But like I said, who are you to judge on what love is? So what is love? Gah, even that's hard to explain. All I know is that you'll know it when it comes. Don't ignore your heart when it comes to love. But you need both your mind and your heart when it comes to the one you want to be with forever, and ultimately YOU make the decision, not others. Ask for different opinion, weigh the positive and negatives, all of that, but just make sure you don't end up in a situation where 2 boys confess their undying love for you.... and mean it. Love is a great feeling. Gosh, I can go on and on about it, but I'll just end up rambling for another 10 years... Yes, I have been in love, and I guess I took that love for granted. Am I currently in love? That I don't know. I'm more confused, more torn. Love is a contradictory feeling, another paradox, really (which is why life is a paradox). Wow, I'm usually really calm and understand complexities faster than most people, but this is one mystery I will never truly understand or uncover. I can only talk from experience, and experience alone, because I don't know myself. Oh, and I've also learned not to compare boys, but sadly, I still do. I know it's bad for me, but I guess one can't help it. It got me into trouble, BIG TIME. I'm still in that predicament. I don't want to deal with it, but I do. Oh geez, just don't fall in love until after 16. I think that's a good age, maturity-wise. We'll all be naive with love, but love, I think, requires experience to know for sure. There's gotta be a time when you're not just with one person. You don't want to be a (man) whore, but at the same time, how do you know that one person you dated is the one you're destined to be with? And don't say you're in love with someone, then the next week another person. That's not love. That's just desperation, ignorance, naivity. I've learned, and I believe, that you can fall in love more than once, that you can love two guys at the same time, but that there's only one person out there for you. The perfect match. Why? Experience. What else? Lust is good to an extent, but that's my opinion. Looks isn't everything, but you gotta be physically attracted to them in some way. I guess that's where lust comes in to play? Love shouldn't be taken for granted, etc etc ::insert cliche here:: It does come at the most unexpecting times, though, I'll tell you that. Everyone's situation's unique, and I guess some are luckier than others. Just don't give up, and if you're single, enjoy it. You won't be single for long. Don't look too hard, or you won't find it. Love can suck, though, because of the immense heartbreak, the damage it causes.... Wow, another contradiction. Love is the best and worst feeling in the world... ...Doesn't this seem contradictory? Told ya. I know I'm getting redundant. Well, if you watch "The Family Man" with Nicolas Cage, you'll know what love is. Yeah, it's a little short, but I actually have more on my mind than this miniscule section. What is "True Love"? Haha, first of all I'm DEFINITELY the wrong person to be answering this. But a few days ago, I talked to my mom's boyfriend. He told me about the death of his wife, the day he realized that he truly love her. To put it short, when he found out about her cancer, and her deathbed was going near, he realized that he couldn't live without her, that he really needed her to feel complete. Even though they said their "I Do"s, they still had to "work on their marriage and love." Love and marriage isn't perfect, he told me, but it's times like these that kick you in the ass and help you realize how important your wife is. "It's a working relationship." I think that's the reality on what real, not idealistic, "true love" is, and it seems like our generation, especially myself, believe that love is this idealistic fairy tale, happy ending. Have I been in love? Yes, I believe I have. Am I still in love? Yes, I think I am... And that's all I'm going to say. The Burning Question: What do I look for in a guy? HAHAHA, OK. I don't have a specific type of guy, but I'll tell you what I'm like and the kinds of guys I've dated and have gone for. I'm a hopeless romantic, and I always will be. I like it when a guy sweeps me off my feet, or do those cliche candle light dinner things. The walks on the beach, cuddling under the sunset, or stargazing... you know, those things that just make you relax... I like a guy who can enjoy those things with me. We don't have to talk while doing those, but just his presence is so... comforting. In that sense, I guess I would prefer introverted guys, and since I can relate to them, I'm actually more attracted to them than extroverted ones. Now, that doesn't mean that I DON'T like to have fun. Like I mentioned, I'm very adventurous and I like trying new things. A great date would be a quiet setting, but also playing sports or some other excursion. I like having fun, which is where the extroverted-ness must come in. I also don't like doing the same thing every day. I like variety because I get bored easily. So, if we go out to dinner every day, I'll get sick of it, no matter how much money is spent, haha. A guy has to keep me guessing in that sense. Am I nympho? No. I just like boys a lot. Maybe I'm a semi-nympho? I seriously find nothing wrong with kissing. Kissing's GREAT! Hmm, I also have to be SOMEWHAT physically attracted to him. It might sound shallow at first, but hear me out. Yes, I ALWAYS put personality first. If he can't treat me right, then screw it. But your first impression on someone is usually by the way they look, and what draws them to you is their looks. I don't care how miniscule it is, but if I see SOME good looks in a guy, then he has a chance. Of course, some guys, depending on both looks and personality, might have to woo me more than others, but eh, that's life. We all have our preferences. I try to be open, and I do give every guy friend a chance, meaning I'm not just going to date a random stranger. I don't believe in casually dating a guy who just met me or blind dates. If you wanted to get to know me, be my friend first. THAT'S how you get to know me. I don't need an intimate setting--although it would be nice--to get to know a guy, nor do you need one to get to know the real me. I'm not the coolest person in the world. I'm a dork. I'm a semi-geek. I'm a NERD. And yes, I must also say that I'm pretty cute for a dork-semi-geek-nerd (or as one guy told me, "YOU'RE DAMN HOTT"), but it's the personality that counts, right? There are times that I wished I looked like Trish Stratus, though. =\ Anyway, I don't want to sound homophobic or anything--which I'm not--but I'm not like that, and I really don't like it when girls hit on me even though they know I don't swing that way. It's one thing to crush on me, but it's another thing when you take it too far, like get all touchy-feely with me. But yeah! Uy, this sounds like a dating service. IT'S NOT! THIS IS A PERSONAL PAGE! |
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