The Emotional Competence Framework
(Working with Emotional Intelligence)
Personal Competence
These competencies determine how we manage ourselves.
Self-Awareness
Knowing one’s internal states, preferences, resources, and intuitions
(see Chapter 4)
Emotional awareness: Recognizing one’s emotions and their effects
People with this competence:
- Know which emotions they are feeling and why
- Realize the links between their feelings and what they think, do, and say
- Recognize how their feelings affect their performance
- Have a guiding awareness of their values and goals
Accurate self-assessment: Knowing one’s strengths and limits
People with this competence are:
- Aware of their strengths and weaknesses
- Reflective, learning from experience
- Open to candid feedback, new perspectives, continuous learning, and self-development
- Able to show a sense of humour and perspective about themselves
Self-confidence: A strong sense of one’s self-worth and capabilities
People with this competence:
- Present themselves with self-assurance; have "presence"
- Can voice views that are unpopular and go out on a limb for what is right
- Are decisive, able to make sound decisions despite uncertainties and pressures
Self-Regulation
Managing one’s internal states, impulses, and resources
(see Chapter 5)
Self-Control: Keeping disruptive emotions and impulses in check
People with this competence:
- Manage their impulsive feelings and distressing emotions well
- Stay composed, positive, and unflappable even in trying moments
- Think clearly and stay focused under pressure
Trustworthiness: Maintaining standards of honesty and integrity
People with this competence:
- Act ethically and are above reproach
- Build trust through their reliability and authenticity
- Admit their own mistakes and confront unethical actions in others
- Take tough, principled stands even if they are unpopular
Conscientiousness: Taking responsibility for personal performance
People with this competence:
- Meet commitments and keep promises
- Hold themselves accountable for meeting their objectives
- Are organized and careful in their work
Adaptability: Flexibility in handling change
People with this competence:
- Smoothly handle multiple demands, shifting priorities, and rapid change
- Adapt their responses and tactics to fit fluid circumstances
- Are flexible in how they see events
Innovation: Being comfortable with novel ideas, approaches, and new information
People with this competence:
- Seek out fresh ideas from a wide variety of sources
- Entertain original solutions to problems
- Generate new ideas
- Take fresh perspectives and risks in their thinking
Motivation
Emotional tendencies that guide or facilitate reaching goals
(see Chapter 6)
Achievement drive: Striving to improve or meet a standard of excellence
People with this competence:
- Are results-oriented, with a high drive to meet their objectives and standards
- Set challenging goals and take calculated risks
- Pursue information to reduce uncertainty and find ways to do better
- Learn how to improve their performance
Commitment: Aligning with the goals of the group or organization
People with this competence:
- Readily make sacrifices to meet a larger organizational goal
- Find a sense of purpose in the larger mission
- Use the group’s core values in making decisions and clarifying choices
- Actively seek out opportunities to fulfill the group’s mission
Initiative: Readiness to act on opportunities
People with this competence:
- Are ready to seize opportunities
- Pursue goals beyond what’s required or expected of them
- Cut through red tape and bend the rules when necessary to get the job done
- Mobilize others through unusual, enterprising efforts
Optimism: Persistence in pursuing goals despite obstacles and setbacks
People with this competence:
- Persist in seeking goals despite obstacles and setbacks
- Operate from hope of success rather than fear of failure
- See setbacks as due to manageable circumstance rather than a personal flaw
Social Competence
These competencies determine how we handle relationships.
Empathy
Awareness of others’ feelings, needs, and concerns
(see Chapter 7)
Understanding others: Sensing others’ feelings and perspectives, and taking an active interest in their concerns
People with this competence:
- Are attentive to emotional cues and listen well
- Show sensitivity and understand others’ perspectives
- Help out based on understanding other people’s needs and feelings
Developing others: Sensing others’ development needs and bolstering their abilities
People with this competence:
- Acknowledge and reward people’s strengths and accomplishments
- Offer useful feedback and identify people’s needs for further growth
- Mentor, give timely coaching, and offer assignments that challenge and foster a person’s skills
Service orientation: Anticipating, recognizing, and meeting customers’ needs
People with this competence:
- Understand customers’ needs and match them to services or products
- Seeks ways to increase customers’ satisfaction and loyalty
- Gladly offer appropriate assistance
- Grasp a customer’s perspective, acting as a trusted advisor
Leveraging diversity: Cultivating opportunities through different kinds of people
People with this competence:
- Respect and relate well to people from varied backgrounds
- Understand diverse worldviews and are sensitive to group differences
- See diversity as opportunity, creating an environment where diverse people can thrive
- Challenge bias and intolerance
Political awareness: Reading a group’s emotional currents and power relationships
People with this competence:
- Accurately read key power relationships
- Detect crucial social networks
- Understand the forces that shape views and actions of clients, customers, or competitors
Social Skills
Adeptness at inducing desirable responses in others
(see Chapters 8 and 9)
Influence: Wielding effective tactics for persuasion
People with this competence:
- Are skilled at winning people over
- Fine-tune presentations to appeal to the listener
- Use complex strategies like indirect influence to build consensus and support
- Orchestrate dramatic events to effectively make a point
Communication: Listening openly and sending convincing messages
People with this competence:
- Are effective in give-and-take, registering emotional cues in attuning their message
- Deal with difficult issues straightforwardly
- Listen well, seek mutual understanding, and welcome sharing of information fully
- Foster open communication and stay receptive to bad news as well as good
Conflict management: Negotiating and resolving disagreements
People with this competence:
- Handle difficult people and tense situations with diplomacy and tact
- Spot potential conflict, bring disagreements into the open, and help de-escalate
- Encourage debate and open discussion
- Orchestrate win-win solutions
Leadership: Inspiring and guiding individuals and groups
People with this competence:
- Articulate and arouse enthusiasm for a shared vision and mission
- Step forward to lead as needed, regardless of position
- Guide the performance of others while holding them accountable
- Lead by example
Change catalyst: Initiating or managing change
People with this competence:
- Recognize the need for change and remove barriers
- Challenge the status quo to acknowledge the need for change
- Champion the change and enlist others in its pursuit
- Model the change expected of others
Building bonds: Nurturing instrumental relationships
People with this competence:
- Cultivate and maintain extensive informal networks
- Seek out relationships that are mutually beneficial
- Build rapport and keep others in the loop
- Make and maintain personal friendships among work associates
Collaboration and cooperation: Working with others toward shared goals
People with this competence:
- Balance a focus on task with attention to relationships
- Collaborate, sharing plans, information, and resources
- Promote a friendly, cooperative climate
- Spot and nurture opportunities for collaboration
Team capabilities: Creating group synergy in pursuing collective goals
People with this competence:
- Model team qualities like respect, helpfulness, and cooperation
- Draw all members into active and enthusiastic participation
- Build team identity, esprit de corps, and commitment
- Protect the group and its reputation; share credit