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| The Following are some responses to questions asked to the members of the SIDS Families support group which can be reachedby going to www.sidsfamilies.com. I thought what would be most helpful was to listen to mother's who have lost a child to SIDS, listen to their do's and dont's on what helped them in their time of great need. Please note: These are from the mother's individual experience's. As you will see by their comments EVERYONE'S needs and wants are very different. |
| Answers from SIDS Mom's |
| Question: What did someone do for you in the early days following your childs death that helped/did not help you? |
| "My best friend, El, was pregnant when I lost my little Pierre. We had such dreams of our two little ones growing up together and being best friends from the start. Obviously, these dreams will never come true. The thing that she did and is still doing is letting me talk about him. She brings up little Pierre all the time. She told me that her little one, Taylor, will know all about Pierre and they will still be friends but in a different way. What did not help me: What someone said that was idiotic: I am 28 years old, so people make it a point to tell me that I'm young and can have another one.(Baby) I guess they think that if I have another one it will replace the loss I have for little Pierre. How wrong they are." Sherry Pierre's Mommy |
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| I think my family is what helped me most. They were there with me and comforting me. Jason was awesome during that time. I feel bad sometimes because I feel that he didn't get to grieve properly because he was trying to take care of me. That and I searched online and found the SIDS Familes site the week she passed away. I think the site is what helped me the most. It helped me realize that I wasn't go through this alone and that the feelings I had were normal. The people in the group also gave me a better understand of what SIDS is and that what happened wasn't my fault. They also told me what I should expect to feel in the future. That helped prepare me when I started feeling those things. So, in a nutshell, SIDS Families is what helped me most those first few weeks after we lost Kayla. Without this group, I don't know where I would be today...probably in a mental institution by now. Hugs, Gail |
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