| I know what feels good to me, way better than you do. So don't try to guess what I will want you to do. I'm very good about verbal communication. I'm not very eloquent though... small words, no sentence structure... lick.. lick.. harder faster MORE! I have no hesitation grabing a hand full of your hair to keep you from going anywhere. |
| Volume is a big clue with me. The better something feels the more I moan and the closer I get to orgasm, the louder I get until I'm a screaming, thrashing bundle of nerves. Some people will decide that this is the point to go faster or harder. If you do that, you will ruin the mood and instead of feeling better, it can actually be painful. |
| If she is just laying there and not responding, it does NOT mean stop. |
| Some info here involves specific techniques that I like. Mainly it's about communication. This is MY view point only! You can try to apply this to other women you play with, but I make no promises that they will work. I've included links from other sites that have info. The most important thing to remember is that orgasm should NEVER be the goal. The sensation of being licked is a joy in and of itself and the orgasm signals the end of that joy. If it happens too fast, you may be pleased with your accomplishments, but she may not be. |
| While it's good to learn certain techniques, keep in mind that a woman's body changes somewhat throughout the month and changes greatly as she ages. Something that worked last year may not work now, and something that worked yesterday may never work again. That is why it's important to listen. It doesn't matter how it felt then, all that matters is what it feels like now. |
| A how-to guide cute and informative writen by 3 women |
| B O D Y L A N G U A G E ! |
| If she starts moving around. |
| There is a reason there are so many jokes about the man rolling over and going to sleep while the woman stares at the ceiling. The truth is that women take longer... MUCH LONGER! Start off slowly just licking and kissing the mons and outer labia. REMEMBER the clit is somewhere you ease up to, don't ever start there and once you get there, don't leave unless she tells you to. |
| Regardless of what position you choose, make sure it's going to be comfortable for you. If you're not relaxed and comfortable you will feel the effects of your unnatural positioning and it will take it's toll. If you start to cramp up, chances are you'll try to hurry things along rather than repositioning. Trust me... Changing position is much better than rushing, as long as you are prepared to make up for the interruption. |
| Some men are naturally blessed with long, crafty tongues, which they seem to flip around with a certain magic. But for most, if you don't pace yourself, fatigue will be a problem. The tongue can get sore very quickly. When that happens, you might as well forget it, because if you aren't enjoying yourself, you won't be very good. I'm not sure if the tongue can be strengthened over a period of pussy eating, but I'd tend to imagine you can somewhat improve your stamina in this area if you work at it. |
| BASIC TECHNIQUES |
| I love to have my clit and labia licked... But I'll never cum without internal stimulation. The G-Spot is simply the base of the clitoris. It is the spongy tissue that surrounds the urethrea (much like the prostate gland in men). For some women this is so sensitive, that they can orgasm from intercourse only. For some women, it is just plain uncomfortable. Every woman is different. The easiest way to stimulate the G-spot is to insert your first and middle finger all the way, palm up. Then curve your fingers in a "come here" motion over and over again. This is why short smooth nails and soft hands are very important. (Otherwise plan on wearing latex gloves) An ability to rub your tummy and pat your head come in very handy as well. This does get tricky because as you can imagine, it takes a bit of maneuvering to have both your face AND a hand in a fairly small space. |
| Giving oral pleasure By David Strovny |
| Yes... it sounds so cliche, but most women need to be relaxed before arousal is even possible. Quiet music or a CD of nature sounds, soft lighting and beautiful scents help to get me relaxed. Giving a massage is often said to be the best foreplay. Hands stroking my neck, shoulders, and back... then gently running over my breasts and tummy, down to my thighs. It's all about getting me relaxed.. and keeping me relaxed, until orgasm is inevitible. If I get stressed, it's likely to turn me off completely. |
| Candlelight and soft music. |
| You Can't Rush a Work of Art. |
| Make Yourself Comfortable |
| Pace Yourself. |
| Let your fingers do the walking. THE G-SPOT |
| There are two reasons why I'll start moving. The first is because I'm close to or starting to cum and just can't keep still. It's pretty obvious because the movements are big and I'll be moaning really loudly. You need to move with me then to push me over the point of no return. The other reason is that I need sensation just a little bit to the left.. or the right.. or down. It's easier to move myself so that you are licking the exact spot rather than telling you to move down and left (your left or my left?) These movements are very small and done with deliberate intent. I'm not making much noise at this point since I'm trying to make it feel better so I WILL be making noise. |
| It may seem at first that if I don't make any noise at all, I must not be enjoying myself. If you don't believe anything else about me, believe this, if it doesn't feel good, I'll let you know immediately! I don't care one whit about catering to your ego. There is no earthly reason for me to fake it. If I'm quiet and just breathing, it feels good. If I start moaning, it feels REALLY good, but I need to go through the heavy breathing stage before I get to the moaning stage. |
| If she needs a change in rhythm, she'll tell you. |
| Moaning louder means DON'T CHANGE A THING |
| Doing it the same as you've always done it, doesn't always work. |
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