| There is often the misconception among straight people that being bisexual means that you want to have sex with everyone you meet... male, female, doesn't matter right. But does this mean that every straight woman wants to have sex with every man she meets? Of course not. There is more to sexual attraction than a person's gender. In my case, a person's gender has nothing do with sexual attraction at all. Personally, I consider gender to be no more important than hair or skin color. On the other end of the spectrum, gay people consider bisexual people to be "sitting on the fence" or that we just can't choose. I did choose... I choose to be me. No one chooses to be gay... they just accept that they are and live with it, asking only that others accept them as they are. I'm not asking for anything different. I can be attracted sexually to either men are women, I accept that, and ask only that you accept me as I am. |
| Bisexual have long been accused of riding in on the coat-tails of the gay rights movement while hiding behind the facade of being straight. Yes, we could choose to pretend to be straight, as both the extremists in the gay and straight communities imply, why then are we so vocal about being bi? Because we choose to not hide... I am open about being bisexual just so that I am NOT perceived as straight. Anyone who thinks I am, is just not very observant. I am out as bisexual at work, with my family and with my neighbors. The fact is that we have been there all along... supporting the fight to be accepted for who we are without having to pretend we are someone we are not. We are the "B" in GLBT! By standing together, we ALL have a louder voice. |
| Being openly bisexual is difficult. We get attacked from both sides... the straight and the gay communities equally. Many straight people think that we could just pretend to be straight. The most public example was when then Mayor, Norm Coleman refused to allow a GLBT parade in St. Paul, because "bisexuals can choose to live as straights, but gay's can't." My response to that is that gay people can and do choose to live as straight all the time... Of course they are miserable, and tend to make everyone around them miserable as well. Then there are the gays who are angry because they also believe that we can choose to live as straight, but want us to "come out" so that we don't get the benefits of being straight while enjoying the pleasures of same gender companionship. Same response to that of course... A gay person could pretend to be straight also... They just decided that the "benefits" were not worth the lie. |