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| How to Cope with Release |
| The first stage is denial of the release, not wanting to believe it has happened, sitting around waiting for your former Master/Mistress to return, hoping that it is all a dream, that they will return. The second stage is shock, our inability to cope with our release causes us to withdraw, not wanting help from anyone, just to sit and think about what has happened. The third state is self-depreciation, thinking it's all your fault, that you weren't worthy, you did something wrong, though we know this is not true, our mind refuses to allow us to move on, that we must be blame for all that has happened. The fourth stage involves depression, thinking that nothing is ever going to be the same, that you cannot live without the person you so trusted and depended upon, our self worth is battered and we feel we deserve all that we have gotten and more, that we are not worthy of anything good. The fifth stage is hate, wanting everything bad to happen to the person who hurt you and do any person involved in the release, wanting them to hurt as much as you do. The sixth stage is acceptance, learning to live with the fact that you were released and that you must move on, this stage is the best it allows us to heal the most the builds our self worth back up. And the final stage is starting over, continuing on with your life the stage, which you can grow again, and once more learn to trust and love, knowing that we will be happy again. The pain sometimes gets less, but not always. Remember that the outcome is always the same, we move on. All slaves should go through a mourning period, in which they can retrieve their dignity, reconstruct their feelings, and grow strong enough to choose whom they will serve. During this time friends are so necessary to be able to carry on to gain strength and support. Lean on them, they will help you tremendously if only you let them. Take a piece of paper or in the computer type down all of your feelings, those of hurt, pain, anger, fear, everything, and get them out. Do not hold back on your language just write exactly what come to your mind and release it all. Then take the paper and burn it, or if in the computers post and eliminate it. As you do this, think in your mind of this stage of your life developing and growing from what has happened, gain strength from the pain and you will allow yourself to heal. Though it may seem like the end of your world, as you know it, it truly isn't. There is hope and you will find another, who is even stronger and better then, the last, and you will rejoice in the previous loss and be thankful that it was allowed to happen. Many will ask you how you are, but it is hard to put all the feelings of loss into words. You do not have to if you do not wish, but remember that they are there to help. They worry and want to see you happy again�. So lean on them it will make them feel better and help you also. Always remember there is a sun under the dark clouds though hidden, it remains and will one day appear again and your world will be bright again. Submission is love; trust, hope, desire, and yearning�when one falls all follow all but one. HOPE!!!!!!!!!!!!! |
| Autor Mystic_Jul |
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