Jim & Elaine ...  I was married for over 31 years to Dee and she died 6/14/93 and as most of us do I thought my life was over... Dee had been fighting Diabetes for over 27 years and the last 5 were really bad..After she died I just existed for a while and my grown kids got me Prodigy as something to keep me busy... Well after about 6 months there I found their grief bulletin board.. There I met Elaine .. her husband Charley died 7/22/92 ...They had been married 38 years... To make a long story short, we fell in 'like' on the computer and after lots of emailing and phone calls we met in person and fell in love...There were many things to overcome .. I lived in WV and she lived in MA so commuting was out of the question <G> ... I solved that by retiring and moving to MA... We were married 3/26/95... I know this reads like it was an easy thing to do but it was not !!! I will tell all that read this that being blessed with love the second time is special... The love we feel for each other seems deeper and more intense than what we had with out late spouses...There are many reasons for this... We are both older <g> the kids are all grown and we know that our life can end in a heartbeat so we live each day to the fullest and take nothing for granted... We both have been asked how we can risk going through this painful process of grief.. The answer is there is no risk !!! One of us will die and the other will be left behind to grieve again...BUT !! The love we share between us is worth the pain that one of us will go through again...I look at the love I shared with Dee for 31+ years and it was worth the pain of grief... Jim & Elaine
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