| Monday 6/3/02 ~ Rant One thing you should never ever tell someone is how to feel or that they shouldn't feel a certain way. No matter how much you know them or how close they are, there are only certain things that can be articulated so that you can understand. So many thoughts and feelings go unsaid because it's hard to turn them into coherent words. So when you think you know the whole story and you think you are in a position to judge how the person should feel, stop yourself because most likely you are not. You don't know exactly where they're coming from and in what context they are saying things. If you can't think of anything to say just sit there and listen. And if you still feel like the person "shouldn't" be feeling a certain way, keep it to yourself until you know the other person is not so upset. And even then, choose your words wisely because no matter what you are in no position to impose how someone should feel about something. Ok with that off my chest on to more worldy matters. I went to lunch with my mom and some of her friends and one of them said that on Friday she heard on the news that this 11 year old girl is 6 months pregnant. What's more, the father is her 75 year old godfather. Yep. And if that's not enough, she's decided to keep the baby. That is beyond sick. It's horrible of the parents to "let her" keep the baby if I can even say that. She's 11. I don't think she is old enough or mature enough to be able to make a decision like that. She still plays with dolls for goodness sake! And why didn't the parents do anythign as soon as they found out she's pregnant? I'm sure they didn't wait until her stomach started getting bigger to realize she was pregnant. They had to have known earlier especially the mom! That's ridiculous for them to not have considered the idea of an abortion. She's 11!! None of her bones are fused yet. What about any future damage or problems she would/could have in her back and her pelvis? What if the bones don't even fuse right? Did her parents think of that?? Sure the guy got life in prison but how much more of a life does he have?! And along the same lines, what about that girl from UCSC who had a baby her freshman year and killed it. Not only is she not going to get any punishment whatsoever (I don't consider 1000 hours of community service punishment) but her boyfriend gets off with nothing. Granted she's the one who killed the baby. But they both were there when she got pregnant right? If she gets community service, so should he. And this is not one of my feminist-everything-has-to-be-equal kind of thing. It's common sense. It takes both to make a baby, then both need to assume responsibility later which in this case is community service. Geez louise.... 5:52 pm ~
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