In order to be able to claim to have behaved civilly, we have to have acted in a fashion that expresses respect for the rights of each around us. Otherwise, we have merely found a more subtle way to practice aggression, going on to register a hypocritical note of protest if another should openly return that aggression, that our posture has us covertly pursue. If one smiles as one picks a fight, one has still picked a fight.

Civility can never be cowardice. Civility is that course of rightful conduct that makes for a civil environment. If each must stand alone, bereft of the support of his fellows when under attack, the environment that results is a combative one, in which one can't truly relax, not a civil one. That which civility requires us to forbid to ourselves as a matter of certainty, we can't permit in those who would linger among us. Each must know the comfort and security of the support of a civil gathering, if it is to be considered one.

In light of this, we now consider our fourth given value.