How you talk about rubber and your Little Girl says very much. Among the things you want to do is make it clear without being too direct is that something unpleasant is being done to her in a way that is unpleasant to feel, touches right on her girlness and is just sooo humiliating. . As examples, we never say "We put rubber panties on [her name]" We say "We use rubber panties on [her name]", meaning that this is being done to Little Girl. Also instead of saying of her that she still needs or wears diapers, we say that she is still in rubber pantiies (and offer to show them to the person we are talking to by taking the hem of the Little Girl's dress, skirt or babydoll and asking the other person if she would like to see them for herself). For anyone over the age of 4 at RUFFLEDS & RIBBONS GIRLS' HOME, just hearing "rubber panties" brings back all kinds of unpleasant memories. We also do not say "[her name] is still in in" or "...still wears (or needs) rubber panties" we say "...is still put in rubber panties" or "Rubber panties are still put on [her name]" Again showing that she has no say in what is being done to or with her. and she just has to live with it. When we are dealing with a Little Girl who is being bothersome we say "I think [her name] needs to feel rubber" or I think [her name] is ready to wet a rubber diaper " or "[her name] needs to wet a rubber diaper" as opposed to saying outright that she needs to be chastized. Even "chastized" is different from "punished" in that "chastized" kind of says that there is something in it that is good for her or that she needs.

by using her name and not saying things to her but sort of by her to someone else implies that she is not being addressed but is being taled about and the use of her name and rubber and what that means she will feel ties her name to rubber nad the nasty feelings it gives her.

Being talkd by rather than to all kind of says that she is not to be considered as a person but more like a dollie that you are using. The indirect manner of talking, rather than bringing up one image of what will be done to her lets many images, all bad, come to here and she 'lives" through different kinds or rubber chastizement while you are getting her ready

This all makes her feel more dread as she considers what will be done to her and makes her feel more helpless and that makes the things even more unpleasant.

Other things we do is apologize in advance for the way she will smeell, say that we wish we did not have to use all this rubber on her, or that we wish we had the time to changer as she needs to be but she is such a heavy wetter that if we did, we would have no time for anything else. or tell her that if she were not such a wetsy babygirl, she could have nice clothes, or smell nice like flowers or have nice friends but nobody wants to be near a smelly wetsygirl.

As we are getting ready to chastize her we talk sweetly about how we wish we did not have to do that, or about how embarrassing it must be to have your dress lifted up in front of these nice peple, or that we understand sweetie but she still must be chastized if she is to learn to be a big girl and that this is for her own good or that she will feel much better after the wetsy (this is true if she has had rubber under her diaper for about 3 or 4 hours but the wetsy feels sooo horrid that it really does not matter, no girl in her right mind would wetsy herself or let herself be wetsies just to have the feeling that the rubber diaper gives go away since it comes back again very shortly),