Dear group,

This is a post forwarded by me on behalf on another person.
Angry and hurt, but also frightened by the power of these people, he has asked me to forward this anonymously.

The, school counsellors, two psychologists and one psychiatrist, all of whom opposed my contact on the grounds that my ex would not be able to cope, are typical of whats available to lawyers to exclude fathers.

They certainly did a number on me. Of course where they really get you is with letting you squirm as you realise how powerless you are to stop them.
Their comments in court can be demonstrably in conflict with their earlier statement, making it completely apparent that they take a dim view of your criticisms of their treatment of your child (this is where representing your self can be a huge disadvantage).

I had one guy, Melbourne's Vincent Papalao - who promotes himself as being an advocate of shared presenting, declare that "there was something toxic" in the relationship between myself and my daughter. This after earlier reporting on the the worm bond we had. His word is God. Cross him, as I did by trying to stop him carrying out a fourth Family Welfare report on my daughter and us, and you're a gonna.(he seemed especially miffed that I'd got the Victorian psychology Board to intervene). Finally he agreed not to harass my daughter further - but only after she broke down in despair in his office.

In an earlier report he had suggested that the was two possible solutions - more contact on the basis that it's denial was distressing my daughter or ii) no contact while my daughter was subjected to therapy to address her anger (she was 6 at the time). Just how popular that sort of pronouncement makes him with the lawyers, I wonder. It stalls the case and ensures exclusion continues while more reports are done.

He also used a strange parody to suggest I was blaming others when it was really me that was at fault.He declared that when you point your finger there is two fingers pointing back at yourself. !, I was staggering to see the Judges approving nods as she considered the notion, while Justice Carter looked at her fingers. It was just one more scene that could have been lifted from Alice in Wonderland ("Off with his head").

I was just about to say that most people here know how these guys operate . I realised that this is largely untrue . You don't find out till after you've or someone your know has been through it. Its like lambs to the slaughter, unless you can muster the support of expert witnesses that are prepare to protect your child and you from what is, essentially your x's efforts to exclude you.

I often wonder about the guys that its happening to. I regret that we have been so powerless to warn them. I wish I was warned. Once you case centres on the psychological evaluation of your child and their contact with you, you can kiss your "substantial or meaningful" contact wit them goodbye.

The other psychologists Mr Steve Osrim - declared that my x would "shut down emotionally" if my daughter was allowed to see me.

The school counsellor (I forget her name she know works for Ballarat Grammar) ) but was extraordinarily hostile. A lot of school have these now. It's moved from the cane to being sent to the school counsellor. Some how I think I'd prefer the cane.

The psychiatrist Dr. Entwisle suggested that I didn't listen to anybody else, when I argued that his assessment of me were biased and contradictory to a Professor of psychiatry Prof. Brendan Holwill. Needless to say he didn't like it when I refused to go back to him.

I've posted this post through F4J anonymously to avoid potential for further intimidation from these practitioners, After all no doubt they could be wheeled out again, anytime. But I guess arguing for any of them to be disqualification should succeed now that they have done the deed (after final hearing).

I doubt that they want to take me on in court for deformation because what I am saying is demonstrably true, and I think its my right to warn people of the danger these men represent to children. Besides why would they bother - their power is in the control of your access to your child. There always new ones coming in the door.

I look forward to when fathers can find out about these guys so they can defend their children and them selves. Knowing this in advance would at least make people realise how the respect they show these guys can be the determining factor.

Kind regards
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