weBLOG for August 17th, 2004

If you were to ask me, and chances are you wouldn't, I'd tell you that the funniest movie based on a Saturday Night Live skit is hands down, The Blues Brothers. Sure, it's a quote I say often, but it's still a funny line.

So, I got to thinking of something, right before I went to bed last night. It had to do with something a friend of mine told me last week. She said that as soon as a friend shows me some sort of affection, I mistake it for love, and that's where I have so many of my problems. Although, after some introspection, I feel that that is a mistake.

From what I've experienced in life, this is what I believe. I believe that for a relationship to work, there has to be more than sex involved. There's gotta be some sort of glue in the relationship other than lust, because even though a relationship can go pretty far on lust, it can't hold out forever.

I've seen that if two people have some sort of rapport, something they can share between themselves, then there's something to the relationship. You have to be able to hold conversations with the person, share some likes and dislikes, have movies the two of you can sit through together, have concerts both of you want to go see.

In short, you have to be friends with the other person if you want to succeed in a relationship. This romantic bullshit we're fed on TV and movies is a lie. And I believe that if you fail at a relationship, it's not the end of the world. Just learn why that relationship failed, and move on.

And one day, who knows, I might be able to put these lessons to use.

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