| 05 apr 2001 first, congratulations to hideo nomo for pitching the second no-hitter of his career. i know, i don't follow baseball, but a no-hitter is quite a feat. i remember when he was rookie of the year for one of the national league (?) back in '95. i was in japan at the time, the he was all the rage. all the little kids were buying nomo shirts. he has this windup that looks really cool. i remember imitating him sometimes in front of a mirror. during my internship at KDD, all my japanese coworkers stopped working to watch him pitch during the all-star game. i remember all of us huddling in front of the tv, and me enthusiastically telling them that the game was played in my hometown, dallas. ----- tuesday night i was watching _buffy_, and there was this one scene where she and riley were in bed. there wasn't anything explicit, but buffy had this face that made it perfectly clear that riley was pounding her nice and slow inside. i remember looking at the clock on my vcr and being shocked that they were showing this stuff just after 8pm. i mean, shit, there are kids watching this! but it was good acting on the part of sarah michelle gellar. i don't think i could fake a sex scene. i'd wind up laughing too hard. there was one time junior year when we were all talking in jen and olivia's room, and i pretended to make an orgasmic face while humping a vacuum cleaner or something. and to top it all off, i was pretending to be the girl! i think jen was pretty impressed. heh. ----- ah, burrito bliss. burritos are the perfect food. big, cheap, and all the food groups. topped off with tapatio hot sauce; i keep a bottle in my cubicle just for these occasions. ----- so, raymond's journal talks about the dating scene down here in silicon valley. i tell you, it really sucks. i've gone to a couple parties and stuff with my roommates, but they invariably wind up being a bunch of people from MIT. and no offense to them, but i can't click with them. i think the trouble i have is the fact that i'm not the dating type. i always like to become friends first, so i have a lot of time to explore into the other person's personality and quirks. which makes it really the antithesis of the way the dating scene operates. i want someone who i've spent time getting to know, and vice versa. that way, there's a better chance that things will last longer once the relationship is started. e-mail's been a good way to know my past girlfriends better. we always started out writing a lot. i value communications skills very highly, and writing on a day-to-day basis is a great way to observe the ebb and flow of a person's mood, emotions, thoughts, and ability for expression. of course, as my relationships became reality, e-mail trailed off. personal dialogue is of course much better and more appropriate. funny, but the one girl that i got together with in a whirlwind of madness and infatuation without a past correspondence was the one relationship that blew up fastest in my face. i need to know someone before i get together with them. so my friend william asked me last weekend why i don't try online dating. i don't know. i need to see the person first before i started getting interested in them. i don't know if this is offensive, or not, but looks are just as important as personality. yes, the former may be a fleeting thing, but on the other hand, if i find someone physically beautiful, even as time passes, i am sure that i will still think that way. it might seem that since i go the deadly (it's only become deadly since my year-old bout with the jo-ann experience) friends route first, then it takes a long time for me to like someone. but i always said that liking someone is pretty quick for me... it's loving someone that takes some time. my three requirements for instantly liking someone are: 1) a cuteness 2) a good smile 3) a bonding moment that last one is kind of vague, but it can be as simple as a good conversation, an unexpectedly good e-mail, or some eye contact at a poetic moment. that third requirement is the semi-cosmic event that i need to perceive that the girl is simply more than pretty, that there is something tantamount to chemistry between us. and that's that. i find that i grow to like some really easily. it's not hard, right? three simple things. and you've got my attention. |