Submission is an act of willingly giving over your personal power to another, letting that person control your heart, mind, behavior, and body for mutual benefit. Sounds simple doesn't it.. yet matters of the heart are anything but simple. However, with time, patience, and the right guide, this world can unfold before you shining brilliantly of gold. It can fulfill your soul's longing to close the void you may feel in your heart. Not sure if you're submissive or even belong here? That's ok.. I know the feeling. I went through all the questions that are probably running through your head now, and hope I can help make things more clear for you. So find a quiet corner of your world to spend some time with me.. and hopefully, get to know yourself a little better. Why would anyone be interested in submission? The specific reasons vary from person to person, but once you get down to the core you will realize that there is something that links us all. Our motivation may be different but the yearning in our hearts and souls are similar, we do it for the simple feeling of happiness it provides us with. It is a natural desire, sometimes inexplicable, to bring pleasure into someone else's life, for that is what pleases us the most. Power in a D/s relationship flows from the bottom up, it is the submissive who sets the limits and always the last say. Our biggest goal is to find the one whom we feel comfortable enough with to hand our control over to. The act of submission is to willingly volunteer our power, no one can take it from us. It is a gift that we offer, no one can demand it. To be submissive does not mean we are inferior to our partners. Our say counts just as much as the dominants'. It takes a strong individual to be secure in who she is, and for that she must be respected. Nor does being submissive mean we are passive in our relationships.. we are in fact highly motivated to contribute in our partnerships in any way possible. Just like in any other walk of life, knowledge is your key to the world of D/s. To find what you are looking for you need to be willing to do your work and have patience. This lifestyle cannot be taught in a day and there is no test to take to prove that you are ready for a Master. It is a lifetime of learning, so go at whatever speed is most comfortable for you. There is no race, no finishline that others will cross before you. This is YOUR journey, and yours alone. There are many resources available on many aspects of the lifestyle, from how-to books to personal discovery websites, you just need to know where to look. I can bet you anything in this world that you will, without a doubt, come across some aspect of the lifestyle that you will find non-appealing. May even wonder how in the world anyone else could do that.. It is normal so don't let it discourage you. The state of submission comes from your heart, only you know your limits and you must above all else respect yourself and those limits. When exploring this world keep an open heart and mind.. D/s is not a culture based on looks or on social status, it is much deeper than what it appears to be at the surface. You may not want to be as involved in the different sides of the lifestyle as others.. but do not ever shun from learning something new, the only way you can arm yourself in this world is with knowledge. Let me assure you that you are not alone. Many others have felt the same tendencies and have had similar fantasies as what have brought you here. They submit to find fulfillment in their lives and have been for thousands of years, males and females alike. A Warning to be Cautious Protect your heart, as a submissive it is in your nature to want to give your all.. but without patience and the right steps to follow through with you are likely to get three times as hurt with your heart open so wide.