And two questions not easily answered. First Why the D/s Lifestyle? If Y/you ask a hundered P/people Y/you will get a hundred different answers. I can only answer for Myself. So for Myself somethin was always missing in My past relationships, I had good ones, but something was missing for they all did end at some point. I think I knew after going into joeygirl's room the first time My life had changed forever, just was not sure if I wanted to admit it at first. Like M/many I was not sure what Domination and submission was truely about. I found it hard to understand at first how a Dominant did not cross the line to abuse. I talked to alot of experienced P/people, and did alot of reading and research. The more I read the more I began to understand. Also the more I read the more I like what I was reading. I learned being Dominant was being kind loving gental, being a protector a guide, and using the power offered up but the submissive for mutual pleasure.
Often I have read of submissives who say it is something inside them. Something they knew was missing, and once they found the D/s Lifestyle they knew what they were missing. That would be the best way to describe it for Me. I did not know what I was missing, but once I did find it, I knew what it was I had been missing.
Now for the question What is the D/s Lifestyle?
This is a question A/all must findout for T/themselfs. Y/you must do Y/your O/own research and ask questions from experencied O/ones. The D/s Lifestyle is truely a lifetime of learning. W/we never stop learning. I am not going to try and answer what is the D/s Lifestyle, but I will go into what a Dominant is.
Abusive
Demeaning
Perverted
Exploitative
One-sided
Something you learn in a day, a week, or even a year
For Everyone
Domineering
Manipulative
An excuse to be rude
Safe, Sane, & Consensual
An exchange of power flowing from the bottom up
Mutually gratifying to both dominant and submissive
Liberating
Nurturing
Courteous
Founded upon trust and mutual respect
