So, you're going to have a CFNM party, now, what are you going to do at the party?
First, it is important to have ice-breaking activities. At any party you will have a measure of shyness and nervousness about meeting others. CFNM parties have the added hurdle of the men being, well, rather exposed and vulnerable. This creates a unique dynamic that can make some feel awkward. Therefore, it is important that the hostesses have prepared for this. If you're a hostess, the best attitude to take is that everyone is there to have a good time, a lot of fun and meet some really cool people. And key to the success of everyone warming up is the personality and extroversion of the hostesses and key party people. No party poopers allowed!
If the party is starting off slow, one way to liven things up is to tell everyone to turn to someone they don't know, introduce themselves, then tell them something unusual or funny about themselves. In addition, begin the foot massaging. Pampering the ladies with foot massages is probably the most favorite of all CFNM party activities, and is the best way to put the women in a relaxed and wonderful state of mind. Have one of the men massage your feet, give you a good shoulder or neck rub, or or scalp massage. Some ladies enjoy having their hair brushed as well. And if the ladies are then served drinks and hors d'oeuvres by your favorite naked waiter, it can really get them in a great mood!
Over time, we have surveyed many, many women that enjoy the CFNM party phenomena. We have asked them to come up with ideas for party games they would like to see played. Of the females surveyed, some came up with some pretty unusual and creative ideas for CFNM party games and activities. Party gifts and awards can be equally as creative. They are sometimes a nice bottle of wine or champagne, gift certificates, or alternatively, incentive for winning a game or contest might be the avoidance of losing as the loser(s) may have to perform a service, do something silly, or, take shots of a rather stiff drink.
NOTE: - The following activities were all suggested by various women that have attended these parties. We have listed these games and activities in order beginning with the more tame and subdued to some fairly edgy ones. The agenda and theme of the party you want to attend should be discussed with your hostesses in advance to assure you have just the kind of experience you want - no more or no less!
Full Monty Striptease and Dance
This is what began the whole male striptease fad a number of years ago. We have had these with great success. The women cat call, whoop and holler as the guys strip it off to the original soundtrack from the movie. Below is an actual photo from the Full Monty Striptease Dance at the first CFNM party we hosted in California.
Pistol Packing
Squirt guns can be disseminated amongst the
ladies. They are great way to instantly get the attention of any man
through
a precision squirt to
where it counts!
Body Painting
A long time favorite at nude beaches and other events, painting the nude
bodies of the men can
bring out the creative energies of the ladies, and as can be seen in the photos
below, the men can't help but to get excited about it too!
Dispelling (or Confirming) Myths
There are many old myths tying the size of
a man's cock to just about every other appendage on his body.
Our past parties have featured the comparison of men's hands, feet and other appendages to their endowment. Another mystery unveiled for the ladies through this activity is the determining of whether the length of men's cocks when in their flaccid state can give an indication of their length when they are erect (ergo, the old "show-ers" versus "grow-ers" can be judged).
Ladies are always quick to volunteer for taking the measurements
and to calibrate the scientific data! This is great fun for the research types. The picture below is an actual photo from one of our CFNM parties during
this testing of the myth when one of the men is standing in front of the
female audience as they observe him first having is hand measured, then,
they observed him have his erect penis measured for comparison between the two.
Another fun activity is allowing the ladies to assess that part of men that most define their bravado, pride and glory - their balls! When the old machismo braggadocio saying "boy, he's got BIG balls" is heard at a CFNM party - the ladies will certainly put it to the test and measure them! Best Balls contests are also popular. This involves the men lining up side-by-side facing the lady judges while lifting up their penises thus allowing the ladies to view their entire balls. "Lowest hanging" and "most robust" are certainly criteria used! (credit for photo - www.thewalnutwalk.com)
Women Judging the Men's Attributes
Contests are held for the ladies to judge and determine such things as best service, nicest attitude, nicest chest, best bum, nicest cock and best pair of balls. It can be by secret ballot, having the men line up and face the ladies, or, the men can walk the runway strip!
Blind Man's Bluff
In this event all men in attendance are blindfolded. The men can either be led or walk through the crowd of ladies, or alternatively, line up. The ladies are then given the opportunity to selectively touch and fondle any and/or all of the men anywhere on their bodies they please and in whatever manner they so desire. Feathers to tickle, or ice to give him a quiver are fun variations. This game allows the ladies the opportunity to experience through touch any part of the physique of any man at the party they desire without his ever knowing who it was. It is particularly nice for the more shy women that normally would never be so bold with their curiosity, and they can explore any man's body to their hearts' content without his ever knowing. The men are not allowed to remove their blindfolds until the ladies have decided that they may. But who did what and with whom remains a secret only with the ladies and the men never know. Provided all are aware and agreeable, another variation of this is to let the ladies to take photographs of the men that are truly candid as the men are unaware who is taking their pictures (photography of your event should be cleared well in advance with appropriate rules).
Shutter Buggery
Many women like to bring their cameras to capture their favorite guys (some
coming to parties are a bit camera shy, so make sure you follow whatever
protocol has been adopted by your hostesses and it's a great idea to bring masks to the party such that people can enjoy being photographed while concealing their identity). Many men actually find
it exhilarating having the ladies photograph them nude, and even find the
knowledge that the ladies will be sharing their nude photos with their
friends exciting. And the ladies have a real fun time playing the
photographer while creating a collection of images they can show off.
Photo op areas are often established to insulate the rest of the party
environment from the cameras. Ladies are encouraged to bring their
cameras providing that their photography activities comply with party
rules.
Plaster Casters
Beginning in the 1960's, Cynthia Plaster Caster became famous by amassing a large collection of plaster molds of famous rock stars' cocks.
Kits for making molds of your favorite cock can be purchased through a
number of sites on the Internet, including
Clone-A-Willy
and Create-a-Mate .
Some of these are cheaper and easier (plaster molds) and some are more
expensive and take time, but you end with a rubber dildo that is identical
to your model. For some ladies, this is a marvelous way of
keeping forever a momento of their favorite guy!
Here's a great video interviewing Ms. Plaster Caster and how the plaster molds of rock cocks became famous:
Dick Costumes
Dress up your favorite dick in a costume!
This is where your creativity comes in. Who says the men can't wear
costumes and be naked at the same time? Bring a costume, or make one
while your at the party and dress up Willy.
Genital Hair Grooming
Women pioneered pubic hair grooming and its various styles. In recent years, women have women become very opinionated stating they enjoy the appearance and the cleanliness of the groomed look of a man's pubic area. Our polls reveal that virtually all women prefer at the very least for pubic hair to be neatly trimmed with many preferring the totally baby-shaved look. Men, just as you would neatly comb your hair to show respect at a job interview, a neatly groomed pubic area shows respect for the ladies when presenting them your penis and balls for their viewing pleasure.
At one of our parties, two insightful young ladies showed with scissors, shaving cream and a razor and demonstrating to the men how pleasing it was to have their balls shaved. It turned into a very pleasurable activity. Genital hair grooming can be a fun activity to incorporate into a CFNM Party giving the ladies an excuse for close up attention of the men's manhood, much to the pleasure of the men too!
Genital Origami
Professed to be an "ancient art form", two
Australians created a world-wide successful show called "Puppetry of the
Penis", which features their feats of genital origami (contorting the penis
and balls into all types of shapes). See if some of the male guests
can replicate these feats (there's an instruction book which can be ordered
from their website at
Puppetry
of the Penis ).
Naked Twister
The classic game we played as youngsters comes back with a fun CFNM
twist.
Who's Attached to That!?
This was a real game show contest on
British television entitled "Something for the Weekend" a number of years
ago (see photo below). Men are behind a screen with only a cut-out at waist height
and
stand in front of the opening. The women attempt to guess which man it
is by only being able to see his cock.
Minute Man Contest
Heroes of the Revolutionary War, Minute Men were known for being able to instantly rise to the occasion. This contest follows this theme. The men line up facing the ladies. Each man is assigned a female participant with the ladies being challenged to get her male contestant to be the first to "rise to the
occasion" through whatever technique she felt would work best; however, none of the men's penises can be touched. Suggested techniques would be
hugs, tongues in the ears, gentle kisses, rubbing thighs, or massaging and/or
blowing on certain areas prone to arousal. Our hostesses will judge which man stands to attention the first, with the female contestant bestowed an award evidencing "Best Prick Teaser"!
Ring Toss Contest
Designated gentlemen lie on their backs. They are stimulated such that
they can lift their ring toss "pole" directly up for this game. Ladies toss plastic
rings to compete to see who scores first. (credit for photo - cfnm.net)
Pin the Condom
Another variation of an old party game perfect for CFNM parties.
Quick Draw McGraw
This is where the contests become even a bit more edgy and should be discussed amongst the hostess committee in advance of the party. The men line up facing the ladies and they then start to pleasure themselves. The concept was promoted by women that had never experienced watching a nude man masturbate, or, wanted to witness first hand the variety of techniques men use as they masturbate - this contest certainly provides the ladies with that experience. The women wager which man releases the first, which man will shoot the farthest, and which man produces the greatest amount. Ladies can test the myths about men, such as whether the men with the biggest balls actually do shoot the most! Our polls have shown most women would want at least some of the men to be able to self pleasure themselves within the party environment with a good number even voting that it should be mandatory for men to participate in such an event if the women deem it is what they want. Again, ask questions in advance if this is something that may make you uncomfortable.
Target Practice
The ladies hold up plastic hoops, which the men use as targets. The men
masturbate and see who is the most accurate sharpshooter through successfully
shooting through the hoops!
Milk Maid Contest
Men are on their hands and knees, preferably on elevated tables making it
easier for all to watch. Maids place bowls under the men's "utters" and
milk them. The maids are judged based upon how much milk they produce from
their man-cows!
Tea Parties
Tea Parties were invented by a group of well know female authors in the San Francisco Bay area in the early 1990s. The concept was to host a tea party for only for women wherein the ladies would dress in comely attire and meet to discuss politics, literature and have poetry readings. However, the ladies would be served by �Naked Slaveboys� as they were called, who were men dressed with bowties, polished shoes, white gloves - but nothing else. The tea parties were such a success that they can now be found around the country.
In general, tea parties have a different flavor than CFNM parties with more interaction with the men. At tea parties, the naked male servants, butlers and waiters are expected to remain quiet until spoken to and provide trained service to the ladies with the professional deportment comparable to that of the traditional English butlers. The men should never bring attention to themselves.
Because of the subservience of the men at tea parties, they have become more popular amongst femdom circles; however, their origins were with the feminist movement. Tea partiesdo not necessarily have to be tied to female superiority or BDSM themes.
A more definitive discussion of tea parties, their history and agendas is presented on the International Ladie�s Tea Party Society at the following link:
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Fashion Fetish Show
Some of our participants enjoy fetish attire. Sometimes it can be amusing and fun to watch the men will demonstrate for the ladies such things as cock rings, g-strings, leather halters, chastity locks and belts and the like.
Annie Oakley Sharpshooting
Named for the renowned markswoman, this game definitely has a harder edge to it. It's really for parties with a strong female domination theme, as opposed to the more common variety CFNM party with a lot of friendly interaction. In this game the nude man is adorned with a target in front of his waist with the bullseye cut out, through which his penis and balls are inserted. The ladies are equipped with a projectile gun, which can shoot anything from ping-pong to tennis balls or rubber bands, depending upon the desired intensity the ladies want. The closer the shot to the bullseye, the higher the score with the highest score being made by a direct hit to his balls (some games involve their taping his cock taped upward such that his balls are fully exposed and prominently displayed for a target). When a bullseye to his balls is scored, instead of a bell ringing the man usually releases a loud yelp letting the ladies know a direct hit has been scored, much to their laughter and delight. In the game shown below, the ladies have tied the mans arms and legs to prevent him from moving about and thus keeping his target still and easier to hit.
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Of course, all activities should only be conducted when they do not stifle the mood of the party, or make any participants uneasy or uncomfortable. This is why we continue to encourage a lot of communication between participants prior to the event.