It's Not your Fault
For a long time I blamed myself for what happened to me. One of the hardest things to learn is that it's not your fault. You can tell yourself over and over again but you just don't believe it.I would think "If I weren't there this would never have happened" or "If I were stronger or a little bigger I could have stopped it". The truth is there was nothing I could have done. The people that hurt me were grown-ups. They were bigger and stronger than me. I was a child and there were times I didn't know that what was being done was abuse. Sometimes all I knew was that it hurt, but that's what was supposed to happen between an adult and a child.
These are thoughts the abuser wants you to think. They want you to feel like theres nothing you can do. They don't want you to tell so they put fear in your heart. They tell you you are bad and they are just disciplining you. These are all lies. It is in no way your fault when someone bigger and stronger than you hurts you.
