| Sunday August 18th 2002 I must say, quite a few attractive women like to frequent the park below my balcony. I'd consider picking up a pair of binoculars, if that weren't such a completely creepy idea. There's been a small amount of action on the relationship front, although the sum is still adding up to zero. That is, I dropped a hint to someone and she told me she has a boyfriend. Unlike the last time I recall getting that response, I actually feel pretty good about it, just for having tried. I have this theory now about making friends with women (yeah, brace yourself): If you're going to try for something more than friendship, do it early. That way you aren't firmly settled yet into 'friends category' in her mind, nor will it be 'just too weird'; nor will you be putting as important a friendship at risk. I found my assertiveness in this particular instance after visiting this guy's site, who bemoans the fate of 'nice guys'. Nothing I haven't heard before. What was new was the female perspective link, which had a discomforting ring of truth to it. I ran it past a couple of other women who lent me some reassurance, but it does bring an important point to the foreground: women do like confidence. And why shouldn't they? So I got brave, thinking 'I can go on like this, making her wonder what I'm thinking - or I can act.' It didn't have a 'happily dating' ending, but it did bring a sense of closure and one less avenue to worry about pursuing. So yes - I'm a hypocrit. I said I wasn't going to worry about ending my singledom anymore and here I go, asking someone out. But I'm hypocritical in words only, not in intention. What I meant was, I'm not worrying about it anymore or measuring my self worth on how quickly I can get back into a relationship. Doesn't mean I'm going to quit trying when opportunity arises, kabish? Now I wish to address an issue that was brought up in my presence recently; call it a public service message to the curious. Why do men find asian women so attractive? Well, there's two reasons. One is the exotic look. It doesn't matter if her family's been Canadian for twenty generations; there's still something otherworldly about the look. Second; they never seem to age. I'm bad at guessing ages to begin with, but I'm at least three times as bad with asian women - I always think they're younger than they are. So there you go. |