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The one thing I love about the web is the opportunity we have to share thoughts openly. To let other know how we feel and share these feelings with others. If by some chance you are a cross dresser search the web, you have found out that you are not alone and that there are many sisters out there that feel the same way you do. I am just one of many as well. What you are about to read are my feelings on the subject of Cross Dressing. How it effects ME, how it effects you and others can be totally different. Marriage First of all let's talk about marriage. Why, well it seems to me that most cross dressers on the web are mostly 30+ that started dressing at an early age. Being 30+ means you have a good chance of being married and maybe a few children around the house as well. most of us Keep our dressing hidden from our wives, afraid of reactions, hurt and the fact they might leave you. Some say, "yes tell your wife, it's the best thing you can do for yourself and her". Others, like me, believe that it is a secret best kept hidden if at all possible if you love your wife and kids. Personally I live my life for them not myself. They make my life possible and well worth living. I would hate to hurt them in any way. And to tell them the truth about the inner me would ruin about everything I have worked for all these years. If they were to find out I would have to fess up to it. I wouldn't lie about. Of course others believe that you should tell your wife. She could attend help groups for other wives of cross dressers to help her cope with your inner self. I would love to know what the percentage of divorce is in this group. I would think it would be high, but I don't know. Now, I'm sure that I am an exception to the rule on this. But my wife will let me slip on a pair of thigh high stockings and a teddy once in a while in the bedroom when we make love. Sometimes we play with make up, I love lipstick. It all started several years ago one night when we traded off roles while making love, I let her be the man and gave her my boxers and my silk robe, she in turn, gave me her teddy and stocking, we had great fun. try it. We still do it about once a month or so. I'll tell you one thing it keeps the relationship fresh and breaks down a few barriers. So as for marriage, keep it. What is Cross Dressing Well I'm sure everybody has there own meaning to that. To me, It means I am comfortable, When I dress up I feel right. I love dresses, heels, stockings, make up, silk and lace. I like to dress like a woman, big deal. How many straight women do you know that dress up in there husbands shirts, or wear pants, sneakers, overalls, neck ties, suits and now jockey underware. It's called fashion and is excepted by millions everyday and they are not looked at twice as being gay or out of place in today's society. But, put a man in a dress, holly cow... here come all the words you could image, Fag, Queer, Gay, back packer....the list goes on. It is not exceptable at all anywhere except at clubs where it is expected. And those are mostly Drug queens of sorts, (nothing wrong with a drag queen now, don't get me wrong). What is wrong about feeling good. If I want to slip into a pair of pumps while typing on the computer at night, fine. If your lucky enough to pass as a woman when your dressed up that's great, as long as you don't lead anybody a long that might think your a woman. One day I would love to go with a butch of the girls en-femme and enjoy ourselves as we should. When & Why did I start Cross Dressing I started dressing at a very early age (see My First Time) Like most CD's (I'm tried of writing it out) I stopped for a while during college and when I first got married. But after a few years I started up again. Why is always a hard question to answer. 1) I like it as stated above, 2) I always thought I should have been a girl. 3) I get along better with woman then men, always have. 4) I feel I should be able to, because I want too. 5) Because I can. Some men don't because they think that it would mean they are Gay, Wrong. (see next section) Am I Gay? Some will say that I am, other will disagree with that, as so will I. No I am not gay. I choose to live a different life style. But I don't think about men, I think about woman, and what they are wearing of course! If if was a woman I would be a lesbian, then you could call me gay. But I am all male as are many cross dressers. Most of us have no desire at all to have an encounter with anything male. Do we think about it, from those I've talked with I would say it was split. Mostly I would say a cross dresser would rather have an en courter with another cross dresser that a gay male if one is interested in the same sex. (Again, no facts to back this up, just my feelings). And in a few that I know that are gay and cross dress, there male lover doesn't like it when they are dressed. I have yet to met a gay couple that consist of a cross dressing partner, even though I sure there are many. This seems to happen mostly in the lesbian community, I think. (sign my guess book and let know, what do you think or know). In this subject I am not looking to piss any one off or to say this is the way it is. I am a cross dresser, not a gay person, we travel in different circles and chat rooms. There are many variables here at play. And some day maybe all the statistical information will back this information up, be it right or wrong. If you have a different opinion than this please e-mail me with it. I would be more that happy to post it for others to read. I think differing opinions is what makes the web great. More to come later.... |