....Why men panic when it comes to-uh-oh!-buying gifts for their girl.
Special days... with it comes good feelings and slimmer wallets. One of the biggest problems that go together with the coming of special days is what to get our significant other. What would be appropriate? How much would it cost? Will she like it? Of course, you first have to know what she wants in the first place. Things would be easier if we all knew wha5t our main squeeze wanted, but unfortunately reality dictates that it's a hit-or-miss kind of thing.
Uh, guess what?
Unless your boyfriend is psychic, chances are he has no idea what to get you for that day, or has a very vague idea of what you might want. The problem here is that girls normally don't tell their boyfriends what they really want, unless it's a big house, a nice car or an engagement ring (yikes). There might be a dropped hint here and there, or maybe even a list somewhere, but sometimes we don't get it. So most of the time, we have to be a bit "psychic" (by seeking help from your bestfriend). You may be thinking, why don't we ask directly instead? Same reason we don't ask for directions: We have no idea.
What to give and when.
Once a couple gets together, the number of occasions in a year doubles: the day you first met, first date, first month, first year and so on. I've learned (quite slowly) that each occassion has an appropriate gift and sentiment- loke knowing when to give jewelry, if it's alright to book a getaway, or how she would react to a sex toy. The thing is, this is stuff girls have a set of rules for, while we men are obliviuos to it. I like to compare our gifts to pop quizzes and final exmas: We may score more misses than hits on minor occassions, but we're hoping to score big on the major ones.
Shopping is male hell.
Unless it's for car parts or hardware, shopping is something we're not accustomed to. We don't get how women can walk for a whole day looking for the perfect pair of shoes, but refuse to take a five minute walk to the sari-sari store to buy napkins.
The hardest part about finding a gift is thinking up lame excuses as to why we are shopping, and why we aren't taking you with us. And then, we have to think about where to shop and how much it's going to cost.
There are a number of places where we could shop, but if we have no idea what to get you, it becomes an epic quest. So we go to a place that has everything, from fancy jewelry to fashionable clothes to kinky underwear, then weigh in our options on what to buy. ("it comes in purple too? Hmm...")
You love us naman, di ba?
In the end it's up to us to decide what to get- we can only swipe our credit cards and hope for the best. It might be a bit too much for someone you've only been with for a short time; or worse, it might be too lame for someone you've been with fot the longest time. But for us guys, it's the best thing we could think of at the moment, and ultimately...we're realy, really hoping that it's the thought that counts.
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