What His Pet Name For You Reveals
Terms of endearment speak volumes about a man's intentions. Clue into the meaning behind behind some common lovey-dovey labels.
*Supersweet salutations: A man who dubs you Honey is commitment-minded and devoted, since this moniker is most popular among long term couples. Sappier terms like Snookums suggest he has a sense of humor and treasures private time together (after all, he wouldn't let that name slip in public).
*Put-you-on-a-pedestal phrases: Guys who stick with laudatory labels like Angel hold you in high regard and aim to please. But if he calls you Princess, he may resent your behavior and is passive-aggresively giving you a dig.
*Personal appellations: Dudes who honor a distinguishing trait of yours (for Instance, Hot Tamale for your fiery enthusiasm) are usually creative and view you as their partner in crime.
*No-frill nicknames: If he chooses a derivative of you name ( like J.Lo for Jennifer Lopez), he's an easy-going guy. Though he may not be the flowery type, he craves a close connection. By adbridging your name, he may be trying to shorten the distance between the two of you.
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WHY MEN CHEAT?
Men Cheat Because:
1. They met hot women at work.
Does he often go happy hour with colleagues ? Does he spend a lot of time working with one particular woman? Does he work late nights and weekends? Corporate culture can be a breeding ground for extracurricular carnal activities- especially if your guy works crazy hours or likes to knock back a few beers with cute chick colleagues. The key to keeping him from grinding at his daily grind. Inserting youself into his work world. Take an interest in what he does. Ask him how a big project is going or let him vent after a hellish day. Also, go with him to company picnics, meet him and his colleagues for after-work drinks, or pick him up at office when you meet for a lunch date. That way, the predatory women he works with will know you as a person, not a faceless girlfriend whose feelings don't count.
2. They like the thrill of the chase.
Was he a player before you two got together? Did he pursue you aggressively when you first started dating? Is he a risk taker? Some guys, especially the excitement-craving type, find that the constant stability of a relationship can feel like a straitjacket- and they bust out of it by cheating. |
Men often start affairs because they're titillating. Guys like a challenge, and having a girlfriend who's constantly available is boring. But if you re-create the sense of adventure within a secure relationship, his hunter instincts will be satisfied.
3. The sex has fallen off in frequency.
Is he always the one who initiates sex? Does he seem annoyed when you turn him down? Does he only say "I love you" during sex? As befuddling as guy's behavior might sometimes be, one thing is clear: If guys don't get enough sack time with their girlfriends, they're going to look for some action on the side. When a woman starts to pull away sexually, the man feels rejected and unloved solely because of being denied sex. But that doesn't mean they're a bunch of horn dogs. Men actually use nooky to convey how much they care about you, which is why they're more prone to say the L word in the sack. Within a relationship, sex is a way for men to express and recieve love. When physical intimacy takes a nosedive, they feel a dip in emotional intimacy too. Keep your sex life so sizzling, he won't have any leftover libido to spare. If you notice that he's always the one who makes the first move, make sure you take the lead sometimes. And be open to some erotic experimentation.
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