Dear Jack...
Got one of those questions
you just can't ask anyone
you know because it's
just a tad too naughty?
I get a lot of those questions
from you guys. Some I get frequently.
Others are so out there, you wouldn't believe
somebody actually thought them up.
None could be any more important
than yours...
So throw it here.
I'll give it my best shot.
Let me preface by reminding you that I am not a doctor, (holistic or
otherwise), nor am I
one of those who would purposely mislead you into believeing that I am. I am also not a psychologist, a therapist, a healer, a gypsy fortune teller, a buddhist... well, you get the idea.
I'm just Jack, a guy with a modicom of common sense, wisdom, a lot of experience in day-to-day
dealings, and a (sometimes sharp) wit to boot. The advice
I give is free, and trust me, it's worth every penny. So if you have a problem, I will do my best to
answer it in whatever manner suits your question best. Please bear in mind that
this column is intended purely as entertainment, and some information I offer
may not coincide with the opinion of a "professional". But then I am not motovated by
political correctness or concerned about being PC (and frankly, I consider that one of my many charms...) So be prepared... I may just shoot from the hip!
If you have any questions on my advice, I recommend
you seek the counsel of someone trained and qualified in the area of your concern.
"LUBE"
Dear Jack,
What is the best kind of lube
for barebacking?
~Criscoboy, San Francisco
Dear Criscoboy,
Just as everybody tastes different,
everybody also has differing tastes.
As this is true, I can only give you
my opinion of what lubes I prefer.
My favorite lube, bar none, is Vaseline.
I enjoy the way it warms up while you
are sliding your cock in and out of a
nice bottomboy's ass, and yet it never
loses its "cling". I also like Crisco,
but the smell is quite hard to get out of
everything from sheets to your sling.
If Vaseline is too heavy for you, you
might try Albolene ~ it's sold in drug
stores as a cold-creme type product.
It has many of the virtues of Vaseline
without the weight (Lo-Cal?)
Likewise, "Elbow Grease" has many of
the virtues of Crisco but in
a lighter formula.
I tend to stay away from water-based
lubes as they get sticky after a while,
and if you're into long lasting ass
fucking, you'll have to re-apply it
a lot. Plus, if there's a load already
in that ass, the jizz will cut the lube,
and vigorous pounding will wear the goo
off and make a hard pounding
very uncomfortable for the bottom.
If you're a bottom and HIV-negative,
you might wish to stay with the water-
based lubes that contain Nonoxynol-9.
This may give you a little more
insurance against HIV transmission,
although I believe the jury may still
be out on the overall effectiveness of
Nonoxynol-9.
In any case, try out different lubes if
you are comfortable in doing so (I once
shagged a handsome young trucker with a
10" cock, using only a stick of butter
for lube... it sounds like a Honcho story
but I swear it's true!). Eventually you
will find you may tire of one brand and will
embark on that endless search of a new
"perfect" sex grease.
At least you can do some stimulating research!
Good luck,
~BBJ
(Jack's faves ~ in order of preference:
Vaseline
Crisco
Elbow Grease
Albolene
Cum
Spit
I don't personally like
water-based lubes as they
are gooey, stringy, sticky,
get everywhere you DON'T
want them, they "pill" or
turn into little rubbery balls,
taste particularly awful,
and are an overall nuisance.
However, KY does work as an
excellent hair gel...
And hand lotion is a joke...)
"NEG/POZ COUPLING"
Dear Jack,
I just have one question
and maybe you can answer it.
I have asked my doctor this
question lots of times
and he throws his arms up as well.
If you are HIV Negative,
and fucking and cumming in
someones ass who is positive,
what are your chances
of picking up HIV?
Some docs say Highly likely,
some say its more dangerous
for the bottom, and some say
I don't know. I know of a
couple (the bottom is poz
and the top is neg) and they
have been banging for years
before they even knew the
bottom was poz...
What has been your result?
Do you perfer to fuck someone
who is neg, or does it really
bother you?
Regards,
Al
Dear Al,
Yours is a question I believe
is on the minds of nearly
every barebacker who is currently
HIV-negative. Since HIV
doesn't incubate immediately,
some men who have been exposed
to the virus are unaware they
have it and still think of
themselves as negative. A
general rule of thumb is to
consider everyone you fuck
as positive.
That aside, in determinig risk,
it is certainly more dangerous
for a negative bottom to receive
loads than it would be for a top
to deliver them.
Of course, if both parties are
truly HIV-negative, there is no
need to worry. Let's face it...
none of us would be here if
the medical profession's propaganda
that the act of bareback sex will kill
you were true. In the hysteria
over HIV and AIDS, many people
(including healthcare professionals)
have apparently forgotten that one
person in a sexual encounter
must have the virus in order to
transmit it. And that would
primarily have to be the man on the
top. If the top is POZ and the
bottom NEG, the bottom is assuming
the highest level of risk by letting
the top jizz in his ass. But
if the top is NEG and the bottom
is POZ, it seems as though the
risk is dramatically less.
There are ways that an HIV-negative
top can receive the virus from
a positive bottom, but certain
factors must be present:
The bottom has blood or pozcum
in his ass
The top has open sores,
cuts or abrasions on his dick
Since HIV is transmitted through
the exchange of body fluids, (and
NOT because, as one straight woman
tried telling me it can walk on its
own and jump into your bed) if you
are fucking your bottom and there is
no blood or previous manjuice in his
ass, your likelihood of getting
infected is minute. If you are a
real ass-rammer, you CAN cause his
rectum to tear, thereby bringing
about blood. If that happens, you
may wish to stop if you know he's
poz. But regular fucking should be
a relatively safe activity.
Bear in mind that pulling out
before blowing your load if you're a
negative top achieves very little
for your safety... HIV won't
swim upstream and get in your
dickhead while you're pumping your
goo into another man's hole. So
as long as you're in there, you
might as well finish the job right!
(Unless he's bleeding...)
Why plow a field
if you ain't planting seeds?
Fisting and major assplay can
also cause a rectum to bleed, so
keep that in mind when trying to
take him to elbow-land. You are at
risk if he bleeds in a fisting
scene and you have any open wounds
on your hands.
You should know that the hysteria
I mentioned before is primarily due
to the medical field's desire to err
on the side of extreme caution. Just
as abstinence will keep a woman from
getting pregnant, doctors have been
drumming home the message that having
a sexless life will prevent the transmission
of STD's including HIV. This is really
a partial myth, as many STD's
like Syphillis, Gonorrhea & warts
can be transmitted without any
exchange of sperm. Herpes, Hepatitis,
Crabs and Scabies can be
transmitted via non-sexual contact
(a kiss, contaminated food, and
general physical contact, respectively).
As such, these STD's are in reality
much easier to acquire than HIV.
As for me... I enjoy fucking POZ
men as well as negative guys. And
POZ guys seem to have fewer
reservations about really getting
into the act than their negative
counterparts. I know what to keep a
watch for while having sex, and
have also come to terms with the
fact that good, hot sex carries
with it the risk of infection from
many different diseases. It's
part of the landscape. And I for
one do not care to sacrifice the
most intimate experience I know in
the name of over-zealous hysteria.
Good luck to you, Al...
~BBJ
NEXT PAGE
If you have a question or comment about
sex, love, and barebacking,
please CLICK HERE to forward your request.
Please write "Dear Jack" in the subject line
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you just can't ask anyone
you know because it's
just a tad too naughty?
I get a lot of those questions
from you guys. Some I get frequently.
Others are so out there, you wouldn't believe
somebody actually thought them up.
None could be any more important
than yours...
So throw it here.
I'll give it my best shot.
Let me preface by reminding you that I am not a doctor, (holistic or
otherwise), nor am I
one of those who would purposely mislead you into believeing that I am. I am also not a psychologist, a therapist, a healer, a gypsy fortune teller, a buddhist... well, you get the idea.
I'm just Jack, a guy with a modicom of common sense, wisdom, a lot of experience in day-to-day
dealings, and a (sometimes sharp) wit to boot. The advice
I give is free, and trust me, it's worth every penny. So if you have a problem, I will do my best to
answer it in whatever manner suits your question best. Please bear in mind that
this column is intended purely as entertainment, and some information I offer
may not coincide with the opinion of a "professional". But then I am not motovated by
political correctness or concerned about being PC (and frankly, I consider that one of my many charms...) So be prepared... I may just shoot from the hip!
If you have any questions on my advice, I recommend
you seek the counsel of someone trained and qualified in the area of your concern.
"LUBE"
Dear Jack,
What is the best kind of lube
for barebacking?
~Criscoboy, San Francisco
Dear Criscoboy,
Just as everybody tastes different,
everybody also has differing tastes.
As this is true, I can only give you
my opinion of what lubes I prefer.
My favorite lube, bar none, is Vaseline.
I enjoy the way it warms up while you
are sliding your cock in and out of a
nice bottomboy's ass, and yet it never
loses its "cling". I also like Crisco,
but the smell is quite hard to get out of
everything from sheets to your sling.
If Vaseline is too heavy for you, you
might try Albolene ~ it's sold in drug
stores as a cold-creme type product.
It has many of the virtues of Vaseline
without the weight (Lo-Cal?)
Likewise, "Elbow Grease" has many of
the virtues of Crisco but in
a lighter formula.
I tend to stay away from water-based
lubes as they get sticky after a while,
and if you're into long lasting ass
fucking, you'll have to re-apply it
a lot. Plus, if there's a load already
in that ass, the jizz will cut the lube,
and vigorous pounding will wear the goo
off and make a hard pounding
very uncomfortable for the bottom.
If you're a bottom and HIV-negative,
you might wish to stay with the water-
based lubes that contain Nonoxynol-9.
This may give you a little more
insurance against HIV transmission,
although I believe the jury may still
be out on the overall effectiveness of
Nonoxynol-9.
In any case, try out different lubes if
you are comfortable in doing so (I once
shagged a handsome young trucker with a
10" cock, using only a stick of butter
for lube... it sounds like a Honcho story
but I swear it's true!). Eventually you
will find you may tire of one brand and will
embark on that endless search of a new
"perfect" sex grease.
At least you can do some stimulating research!
Good luck,
~BBJ
(Jack's faves ~ in order of preference:
Vaseline
Crisco
Elbow Grease
Albolene
Cum
Spit
I don't personally like
water-based lubes as they
are gooey, stringy, sticky,
get everywhere you DON'T
want them, they "pill" or
turn into little rubbery balls,
taste particularly awful,
and are an overall nuisance.
However, KY does work as an
excellent hair gel...
And hand lotion is a joke...)
"NEG/POZ COUPLING"
Dear Jack,
I just have one question
and maybe you can answer it.
I have asked my doctor this
question lots of times
and he throws his arms up as well.
If you are HIV Negative,
and fucking and cumming in
someones ass who is positive,
what are your chances
of picking up HIV?
Some docs say Highly likely,
some say its more dangerous
for the bottom, and some say
I don't know. I know of a
couple (the bottom is poz
and the top is neg) and they
have been banging for years
before they even knew the
bottom was poz...
What has been your result?
Do you perfer to fuck someone
who is neg, or does it really
bother you?
Regards,
Al
Dear Al,
Yours is a question I believe
is on the minds of nearly
every barebacker who is currently
HIV-negative. Since HIV
doesn't incubate immediately,
some men who have been exposed
to the virus are unaware they
have it and still think of
themselves as negative. A
general rule of thumb is to
consider everyone you fuck
as positive.
That aside, in determinig risk,
it is certainly more dangerous
for a negative bottom to receive
loads than it would be for a top
to deliver them.
Of course, if both parties are
truly HIV-negative, there is no
need to worry. Let's face it...
none of us would be here if
the medical profession's propaganda
that the act of bareback sex will kill
you were true. In the hysteria
over HIV and AIDS, many people
(including healthcare professionals)
have apparently forgotten that one
person in a sexual encounter
must have the virus in order to
transmit it. And that would
primarily have to be the man on the
top. If the top is POZ and the
bottom NEG, the bottom is assuming
the highest level of risk by letting
the top jizz in his ass. But
if the top is NEG and the bottom
is POZ, it seems as though the
risk is dramatically less.
There are ways that an HIV-negative
top can receive the virus from
a positive bottom, but certain
factors must be present:
The bottom has blood or pozcum
in his ass
The top has open sores,
cuts or abrasions on his dick
Since HIV is transmitted through
the exchange of body fluids, (and
NOT because, as one straight woman
tried telling me it can walk on its
own and jump into your bed) if you
are fucking your bottom and there is
no blood or previous manjuice in his
ass, your likelihood of getting
infected is minute. If you are a
real ass-rammer, you CAN cause his
rectum to tear, thereby bringing
about blood. If that happens, you
may wish to stop if you know he's
poz. But regular fucking should be
a relatively safe activity.
Bear in mind that pulling out
before blowing your load if you're a
negative top achieves very little
for your safety... HIV won't
swim upstream and get in your
dickhead while you're pumping your
goo into another man's hole. So
as long as you're in there, you
might as well finish the job right!
(Unless he's bleeding...)
Why plow a field
if you ain't planting seeds?
Fisting and major assplay can
also cause a rectum to bleed, so
keep that in mind when trying to
take him to elbow-land. You are at
risk if he bleeds in a fisting
scene and you have any open wounds
on your hands.
You should know that the hysteria
I mentioned before is primarily due
to the medical field's desire to err
on the side of extreme caution. Just
as abstinence will keep a woman from
getting pregnant, doctors have been
drumming home the message that having
a sexless life will prevent the transmission
of STD's including HIV. This is really
a partial myth, as many STD's
like Syphillis, Gonorrhea & warts
can be transmitted without any
exchange of sperm. Herpes, Hepatitis,
Crabs and Scabies can be
transmitted via non-sexual contact
(a kiss, contaminated food, and
general physical contact, respectively).
As such, these STD's are in reality
much easier to acquire than HIV.
As for me... I enjoy fucking POZ
men as well as negative guys. And
POZ guys seem to have fewer
reservations about really getting
into the act than their negative
counterparts. I know what to keep a
watch for while having sex, and
have also come to terms with the
fact that good, hot sex carries
with it the risk of infection from
many different diseases. It's
part of the landscape. And I for
one do not care to sacrifice the
most intimate experience I know in
the name of over-zealous hysteria.
Good luck to you, Al...
~BBJ
NEXT PAGE
If you have a question or comment about
sex, love, and barebacking,
please CLICK HERE to forward your request.
Please write "Dear Jack" in the subject line
so I know it is for this column.
BACK TO THE MAIN MENU
"LUBE"
Dear Jack,
What is the best kind of lube
for barebacking?
~Criscoboy, San Francisco
Dear Criscoboy,
Just as everybody tastes different,
everybody also has differing tastes.
As this is true, I can only give you
my opinion of what lubes I prefer.
My favorite lube, bar none, is Vaseline.
I enjoy the way it warms up while you
are sliding your cock in and out of a
nice bottomboy's ass, and yet it never
loses its "cling". I also like Crisco,
but the smell is quite hard to get out of
everything from sheets to your sling.
If Vaseline is too heavy for you, you
might try Albolene ~ it's sold in drug
stores as a cold-creme type product.
It has many of the virtues of Vaseline
without the weight (Lo-Cal?)
Likewise, "Elbow Grease" has many of
the virtues of Crisco but in
a lighter formula.
I tend to stay away from water-based
lubes as they get sticky after a while,
and if you're into long lasting ass
fucking, you'll have to re-apply it
a lot. Plus, if there's a load already
in that ass, the jizz will cut the lube,
and vigorous pounding will wear the goo
off and make a hard pounding
very uncomfortable for the bottom.
If you're a bottom and HIV-negative,
you might wish to stay with the water-
based lubes that contain Nonoxynol-9.
This may give you a little more
insurance against HIV transmission,
although I believe the jury may still
be out on the overall effectiveness of
Nonoxynol-9.
In any case, try out different lubes if
you are comfortable in doing so (I once
shagged a handsome young trucker with a
10" cock, using only a stick of butter
for lube... it sounds like a Honcho story
but I swear it's true!). Eventually you
will find you may tire of one brand and will
embark on that endless search of a new
"perfect" sex grease.
At least you can do some stimulating research!
Good luck,
~BBJ
(Jack's faves ~ in order of preference:
Vaseline
Crisco
Elbow Grease
Albolene
Cum
Spit
I don't personally like
water-based lubes as they
are gooey, stringy, sticky,
get everywhere you DON'T
want them, they "pill" or
turn into little rubbery balls,
taste particularly awful,
and are an overall nuisance.
However, KY does work as an
excellent hair gel...
And hand lotion is a joke...)
"NEG/POZ COUPLING"
Dear Jack,
I just have one question
and maybe you can answer it.
I have asked my doctor this
question lots of times
and he throws his arms up as well.
If you are HIV Negative,
and fucking and cumming in
someones ass who is positive,
what are your chances
of picking up HIV?
Some docs say Highly likely,
some say its more dangerous
for the bottom, and some say
I don't know. I know of a
couple (the bottom is poz
and the top is neg) and they
have been banging for years
before they even knew the
bottom was poz...
What has been your result?
Do you perfer to fuck someone
who is neg, or does it really
bother you?
Regards,
Al
Dear Al,
Yours is a question I believe
is on the minds of nearly
every barebacker who is currently
HIV-negative. Since HIV
doesn't incubate immediately,
some men who have been exposed
to the virus are unaware they
have it and still think of
themselves as negative. A
general rule of thumb is to
consider everyone you fuck
as positive.
That aside, in determinig risk,
it is certainly more dangerous
for a negative bottom to receive
loads than it would be for a top
to deliver them.
Of course, if both parties are
truly HIV-negative, there is no
need to worry. Let's face it...
none of us would be here if
the medical profession's propaganda
that the act of bareback sex will kill
you were true. In the hysteria
over HIV and AIDS, many people
(including healthcare professionals)
have apparently forgotten that one
person in a sexual encounter
must have the virus in order to
transmit it. And that would
primarily have to be the man on the
top. If the top is POZ and the
bottom NEG, the bottom is assuming
the highest level of risk by letting
the top jizz in his ass. But
if the top is NEG and the bottom
is POZ, it seems as though the
risk is dramatically less.
There are ways that an HIV-negative
top can receive the virus from
a positive bottom, but certain
factors must be present:
The bottom has blood or pozcum
in his ass
The top has open sores,
cuts or abrasions on his dick
Since HIV is transmitted through
the exchange of body fluids, (and
NOT because, as one straight woman
tried telling me it can walk on its
own and jump into your bed) if you
are fucking your bottom and there is
no blood or previous manjuice in his
ass, your likelihood of getting
infected is minute. If you are a
real ass-rammer, you CAN cause his
rectum to tear, thereby bringing
about blood. If that happens, you
may wish to stop if you know he's
poz. But regular fucking should be
a relatively safe activity.
Bear in mind that pulling out
before blowing your load if you're a
negative top achieves very little
for your safety... HIV won't
swim upstream and get in your
dickhead while you're pumping your
goo into another man's hole. So
as long as you're in there, you
might as well finish the job right!
(Unless he's bleeding...)
Why plow a field
if you ain't planting seeds?
Fisting and major assplay can
also cause a rectum to bleed, so
keep that in mind when trying to
take him to elbow-land. You are at
risk if he bleeds in a fisting
scene and you have any open wounds
on your hands.
You should know that the hysteria
I mentioned before is primarily due
to the medical field's desire to err
on the side of extreme caution. Just
as abstinence will keep a woman from
getting pregnant, doctors have been
drumming home the message that having
a sexless life will prevent the transmission
of STD's including HIV. This is really
a partial myth, as many STD's
like Syphillis, Gonorrhea & warts
can be transmitted without any
exchange of sperm. Herpes, Hepatitis,
Crabs and Scabies can be
transmitted via non-sexual contact
(a kiss, contaminated food, and
general physical contact, respectively).
As such, these STD's are in reality
much easier to acquire than HIV.
As for me... I enjoy fucking POZ
men as well as negative guys. And
POZ guys seem to have fewer
reservations about really getting
into the act than their negative
counterparts. I know what to keep a
watch for while having sex, and
have also come to terms with the
fact that good, hot sex carries
with it the risk of infection from
many different diseases. It's
part of the landscape. And I for
one do not care to sacrifice the
most intimate experience I know in
the name of over-zealous hysteria.
Good luck to you, Al...
~BBJ
NEXT PAGE
If you have a question or comment about
sex, love, and barebacking,
please CLICK HERE to forward your request.
Please write "Dear Jack" in the subject line
so I know it is for this column.
BACK TO THE MAIN MENU
What is the best kind of lube
for barebacking?
~Criscoboy, San Francisco
Dear Criscoboy,
Just as everybody tastes different,
everybody also has differing tastes.
As this is true, I can only give you
my opinion of what lubes I prefer.
My favorite lube, bar none, is Vaseline.
I enjoy the way it warms up while you
are sliding your cock in and out of a
nice bottomboy's ass, and yet it never
loses its "cling". I also like Crisco,
but the smell is quite hard to get out of
everything from sheets to your sling.
If Vaseline is too heavy for you, you
might try Albolene ~ it's sold in drug
stores as a cold-creme type product.
It has many of the virtues of Vaseline
without the weight (Lo-Cal?)
Likewise, "Elbow Grease" has many of
the virtues of Crisco but in
a lighter formula.
I tend to stay away from water-based
lubes as they get sticky after a while,
and if you're into long lasting ass
fucking, you'll have to re-apply it
a lot. Plus, if there's a load already
in that ass, the jizz will cut the lube,
and vigorous pounding will wear the goo
off and make a hard pounding
very uncomfortable for the bottom.
If you're a bottom and HIV-negative,
you might wish to stay with the water-
based lubes that contain Nonoxynol-9.
This may give you a little more
insurance against HIV transmission,
although I believe the jury may still
be out on the overall effectiveness of
Nonoxynol-9.
In any case, try out different lubes if
you are comfortable in doing so (I once
shagged a handsome young trucker with a
10" cock, using only a stick of butter
for lube... it sounds like a Honcho story
but I swear it's true!). Eventually you
will find you may tire of one brand and will
embark on that endless search of a new
"perfect" sex grease.
At least you can do some stimulating research!
Good luck,
~BBJ
(Jack's faves ~ in order of preference:
Vaseline
Crisco
Elbow Grease
Albolene
Cum
Spit
I don't personally like
water-based lubes as they
are gooey, stringy, sticky,
get everywhere you DON'T
want them, they "pill" or
turn into little rubbery balls,
taste particularly awful,
and are an overall nuisance.
However, KY does work as an
excellent hair gel...
And hand lotion is a joke...)
"NEG/POZ COUPLING"
Dear Jack,
I just have one question
and maybe you can answer it.
I have asked my doctor this
question lots of times
and he throws his arms up as well.
If you are HIV Negative,
and fucking and cumming in
someones ass who is positive,
what are your chances
of picking up HIV?
Some docs say Highly likely,
some say its more dangerous
for the bottom, and some say
I don't know. I know of a
couple (the bottom is poz
and the top is neg) and they
have been banging for years
before they even knew the
bottom was poz...
What has been your result?
Do you perfer to fuck someone
who is neg, or does it really
bother you?
Regards,
Al
Dear Al,
Yours is a question I believe
is on the minds of nearly
every barebacker who is currently
HIV-negative. Since HIV
doesn't incubate immediately,
some men who have been exposed
to the virus are unaware they
have it and still think of
themselves as negative. A
general rule of thumb is to
consider everyone you fuck
as positive.
That aside, in determinig risk,
it is certainly more dangerous
for a negative bottom to receive
loads than it would be for a top
to deliver them.
Of course, if both parties are
truly HIV-negative, there is no
need to worry. Let's face it...
none of us would be here if
the medical profession's propaganda
that the act of bareback sex will kill
you were true. In the hysteria
over HIV and AIDS, many people
(including healthcare professionals)
have apparently forgotten that one
person in a sexual encounter
must have the virus in order to
transmit it. And that would
primarily have to be the man on the
top. If the top is POZ and the
bottom NEG, the bottom is assuming
the highest level of risk by letting
the top jizz in his ass. But
if the top is NEG and the bottom
is POZ, it seems as though the
risk is dramatically less.
There are ways that an HIV-negative
top can receive the virus from
a positive bottom, but certain
factors must be present:
The bottom has blood or pozcum
in his ass
The top has open sores,
cuts or abrasions on his dick
Since HIV is transmitted through
the exchange of body fluids, (and
NOT because, as one straight woman
tried telling me it can walk on its
own and jump into your bed) if you
are fucking your bottom and there is
no blood or previous manjuice in his
ass, your likelihood of getting
infected is minute. If you are a
real ass-rammer, you CAN cause his
rectum to tear, thereby bringing
about blood. If that happens, you
may wish to stop if you know he's
poz. But regular fucking should be
a relatively safe activity.
Bear in mind that pulling out
before blowing your load if you're a
negative top achieves very little
for your safety... HIV won't
swim upstream and get in your
dickhead while you're pumping your
goo into another man's hole. So
as long as you're in there, you
might as well finish the job right!
(Unless he's bleeding...)
Why plow a field
if you ain't planting seeds?
Fisting and major assplay can
also cause a rectum to bleed, so
keep that in mind when trying to
take him to elbow-land. You are at
risk if he bleeds in a fisting
scene and you have any open wounds
on your hands.
You should know that the hysteria
I mentioned before is primarily due
to the medical field's desire to err
on the side of extreme caution. Just
as abstinence will keep a woman from
getting pregnant, doctors have been
drumming home the message that having
a sexless life will prevent the transmission
of STD's including HIV. This is really
a partial myth, as many STD's
like Syphillis, Gonorrhea & warts
can be transmitted without any
exchange of sperm. Herpes, Hepatitis,
Crabs and Scabies can be
transmitted via non-sexual contact
(a kiss, contaminated food, and
general physical contact, respectively).
As such, these STD's are in reality
much easier to acquire than HIV.
As for me... I enjoy fucking POZ
men as well as negative guys. And
POZ guys seem to have fewer
reservations about really getting
into the act than their negative
counterparts. I know what to keep a
watch for while having sex, and
have also come to terms with the
fact that good, hot sex carries
with it the risk of infection from
many different diseases. It's
part of the landscape. And I for
one do not care to sacrifice the
most intimate experience I know in
the name of over-zealous hysteria.
Good luck to you, Al...
~BBJ
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Vaseline
Crisco
Elbow Grease
Albolene
Cum
Spit
I don't personally like
water-based lubes as they
are gooey, stringy, sticky,
get everywhere you DON'T
want them, they "pill" or
turn into little rubbery balls,
taste particularly awful,
and are an overall nuisance.
However, KY does work as an
excellent hair gel...
And hand lotion is a joke...)
"NEG/POZ COUPLING"
Dear Jack,
I just have one question
and maybe you can answer it.
I have asked my doctor this
question lots of times
and he throws his arms up as well.
If you are HIV Negative,
and fucking and cumming in
someones ass who is positive,
what are your chances
of picking up HIV?
Some docs say Highly likely,
some say its more dangerous
for the bottom, and some say
I don't know. I know of a
couple (the bottom is poz
and the top is neg) and they
have been banging for years
before they even knew the
bottom was poz...
What has been your result?
Do you perfer to fuck someone
who is neg, or does it really
bother you?
Regards,
Al
Dear Al,
Yours is a question I believe
is on the minds of nearly
every barebacker who is currently
HIV-negative. Since HIV
doesn't incubate immediately,
some men who have been exposed
to the virus are unaware they
have it and still think of
themselves as negative. A
general rule of thumb is to
consider everyone you fuck
as positive.
That aside, in determinig risk,
it is certainly more dangerous
for a negative bottom to receive
loads than it would be for a top
to deliver them.
Of course, if both parties are
truly HIV-negative, there is no
need to worry. Let's face it...
none of us would be here if
the medical profession's propaganda
that the act of bareback sex will kill
you were true. In the hysteria
over HIV and AIDS, many people
(including healthcare professionals)
have apparently forgotten that one
person in a sexual encounter
must have the virus in order to
transmit it. And that would
primarily have to be the man on the
top. If the top is POZ and the
bottom NEG, the bottom is assuming
the highest level of risk by letting
the top jizz in his ass. But
if the top is NEG and the bottom
is POZ, it seems as though the
risk is dramatically less.
There are ways that an HIV-negative
top can receive the virus from
a positive bottom, but certain
factors must be present:
The bottom has blood or pozcum
in his ass
The top has open sores,
cuts or abrasions on his dick
Since HIV is transmitted through
the exchange of body fluids, (and
NOT because, as one straight woman
tried telling me it can walk on its
own and jump into your bed) if you
are fucking your bottom and there is
no blood or previous manjuice in his
ass, your likelihood of getting
infected is minute. If you are a
real ass-rammer, you CAN cause his
rectum to tear, thereby bringing
about blood. If that happens, you
may wish to stop if you know he's
poz. But regular fucking should be
a relatively safe activity.
Bear in mind that pulling out
before blowing your load if you're a
negative top achieves very little
for your safety... HIV won't
swim upstream and get in your
dickhead while you're pumping your
goo into another man's hole. So
as long as you're in there, you
might as well finish the job right!
(Unless he's bleeding...)
Why plow a field
if you ain't planting seeds?
Fisting and major assplay can
also cause a rectum to bleed, so
keep that in mind when trying to
take him to elbow-land. You are at
risk if he bleeds in a fisting
scene and you have any open wounds
on your hands.
You should know that the hysteria
I mentioned before is primarily due
to the medical field's desire to err
on the side of extreme caution. Just
as abstinence will keep a woman from
getting pregnant, doctors have been
drumming home the message that having
a sexless life will prevent the transmission
of STD's including HIV. This is really
a partial myth, as many STD's
like Syphillis, Gonorrhea & warts
can be transmitted without any
exchange of sperm. Herpes, Hepatitis,
Crabs and Scabies can be
transmitted via non-sexual contact
(a kiss, contaminated food, and
general physical contact, respectively).
As such, these STD's are in reality
much easier to acquire than HIV.
As for me... I enjoy fucking POZ
men as well as negative guys. And
POZ guys seem to have fewer
reservations about really getting
into the act than their negative
counterparts. I know what to keep a
watch for while having sex, and
have also come to terms with the
fact that good, hot sex carries
with it the risk of infection from
many different diseases. It's
part of the landscape. And I for
one do not care to sacrifice the
most intimate experience I know in
the name of over-zealous hysteria.
Good luck to you, Al...
~BBJ
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I just have one question
and maybe you can answer it.
I have asked my doctor this
question lots of times
and he throws his arms up as well.
If you are HIV Negative,
and fucking and cumming in
someones ass who is positive,
what are your chances
of picking up HIV?
Some docs say Highly likely,
some say its more dangerous
for the bottom, and some say
I don't know. I know of a
couple (the bottom is poz
and the top is neg) and they
have been banging for years
before they even knew the
bottom was poz...
What has been your result?
Do you perfer to fuck someone
who is neg, or does it really
bother you?
Regards,
Al
Dear Al,
Yours is a question I believe
is on the minds of nearly
every barebacker who is currently
HIV-negative. Since HIV
doesn't incubate immediately,
some men who have been exposed
to the virus are unaware they
have it and still think of
themselves as negative. A
general rule of thumb is to
consider everyone you fuck
as positive.
That aside, in determinig risk,
it is certainly more dangerous
for a negative bottom to receive
loads than it would be for a top
to deliver them.
Of course, if both parties are
truly HIV-negative, there is no
need to worry. Let's face it...
none of us would be here if
the medical profession's propaganda
that the act of bareback sex will kill
you were true. In the hysteria
over HIV and AIDS, many people
(including healthcare professionals)
have apparently forgotten that one
person in a sexual encounter
must have the virus in order to
transmit it. And that would
primarily have to be the man on the
top. If the top is POZ and the
bottom NEG, the bottom is assuming
the highest level of risk by letting
the top jizz in his ass. But
if the top is NEG and the bottom
is POZ, it seems as though the
risk is dramatically less.
There are ways that an HIV-negative
top can receive the virus from
a positive bottom, but certain
factors must be present:
The bottom has blood or pozcum
in his ass
The top has open sores,
cuts or abrasions on his dick
Since HIV is transmitted through
the exchange of body fluids, (and
NOT because, as one straight woman
tried telling me it can walk on its
own and jump into your bed) if you
are fucking your bottom and there is
no blood or previous manjuice in his
ass, your likelihood of getting
infected is minute. If you are a
real ass-rammer, you CAN cause his
rectum to tear, thereby bringing
about blood. If that happens, you
may wish to stop if you know he's
poz. But regular fucking should be
a relatively safe activity.
Bear in mind that pulling out
before blowing your load if you're a
negative top achieves very little
for your safety... HIV won't
swim upstream and get in your
dickhead while you're pumping your
goo into another man's hole. So
as long as you're in there, you
might as well finish the job right!
(Unless he's bleeding...)
Why plow a field
if you ain't planting seeds?
Fisting and major assplay can
also cause a rectum to bleed, so
keep that in mind when trying to
take him to elbow-land. You are at
risk if he bleeds in a fisting
scene and you have any open wounds
on your hands.
You should know that the hysteria
I mentioned before is primarily due
to the medical field's desire to err
on the side of extreme caution. Just
as abstinence will keep a woman from
getting pregnant, doctors have been
drumming home the message that having
a sexless life will prevent the transmission
of STD's including HIV. This is really
a partial myth, as many STD's
like Syphillis, Gonorrhea & warts
can be transmitted without any
exchange of sperm. Herpes, Hepatitis,
Crabs and Scabies can be
transmitted via non-sexual contact
(a kiss, contaminated food, and
general physical contact, respectively).
As such, these STD's are in reality
much easier to acquire than HIV.
As for me... I enjoy fucking POZ
men as well as negative guys. And
POZ guys seem to have fewer
reservations about really getting
into the act than their negative
counterparts. I know what to keep a
watch for while having sex, and
have also come to terms with the
fact that good, hot sex carries
with it the risk of infection from
many different diseases. It's
part of the landscape. And I for
one do not care to sacrifice the
most intimate experience I know in
the name of over-zealous hysteria.
Good luck to you, Al...
~BBJ
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