BDSM Beginners Kit
Thoughts on Long Distance Relationships
Do long distance relationships work? I tend to think they do if the couple involved is willing to make it work. I do think those that need constant physical contact will not last long in a long distance romance. But if the emotional aspects of a relationship are what is most important, the difficulties of being in different cities can be overcome. OverKnees and I have been together for quite some time now, and while it is very difficult, I wouldn't trade what we have for anything. Hopefully, we won't live a gazzilion miles apart at some point. But, for now, we do..and these are some coping tips that help me deal with the time between visits.
- Try to make contact with each other every day, or as often as
possible. For me, phone contact is best. Just hearing his voice helps me
make it through the day. If your finances don't allow you to do this,
take time to write e-mail and surprise each other every now and then
with snail mail.
- Stay busy. Don't sit around doing nothing. Work on your career or
plan activities with friends or family. Take up a new hobby or go back
to school. It doesn't matter what you do, just do it.
- Don't spend hours and hours online waiting for your love to appear.
Plan a certain time to meet each other online, or write email.
- Share your daily routine with each other. Take the time to fill your
partner in on how you spent your time apart. Tell him that funny story
about the guy that couldn't take his eyes off of you at the traffic
light. Let her know about that ballgame you watched with the guys last
night.
- Try to have a date set for when you will next be together. Knowing
you will see him again in a certain number of days is much easier than
not knowing when or if you will be in his arms again.
- Most importantly...Don't spend the time apart thinking "I miss you." Instead, spend the time thinking "I am looking forward to when we are together again." Try it...It works. :>
K, with 15 more days to go!!!