>>A young woman went to her mother and told >>her about her life and how things >>were so hard for her. She did not know >>how she was going to make it and >>wanted to give up. She was tired of >>fighting and struggling. It seemed as >>one problem was solved a new one arose. >> >>Her mother took her to the kitchen. >>She filled three pots with water and >>placed each on a high fire. Soon the >>pots came to a boil. In the first, she >>placed carrots, in the second, she >>placed eggs, and in the last she placed >>ground coffee beans. She let them >>sit and boil, without saying a word. In >>about twenty minutes she turned off >>the burners. >> >>She fished the carrots out and placed >>them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs >>out and placed them in a bowl. Then she >>ladled the coffee out and placed >>it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she >>asked, "Tell me, what do you see?" >> >>"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," her daughter >>replied. >> >>She brought her daughter closer and asked >>her to feel the carrots. The daughter noted >>that they were soft. She then asked her to >>take an egg and break it. After pulling off >>the shell, the daughter observed the >>hard-boiled egg. Finally, the mother >>asked her daughter to sip the >>coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted >>its rich aroma. >> >>Then the daughter asked, "What does it mean, >>mother?" >> >>Her mother explained, "Each of these >>objects has faced the same adversity >>-- boiling water -- but each reacted >>differently. >> >>The carrot went in strong, hard, and >>unrelenting. However, after being >>subjected to the boiling water, it >>softened and became weak. The egg had >>been fragile. Its thin outer shell had >>protected its liquid interior, but >>after sitting through the boiling >>water, its inside became hardened. >> >>The ground coffee beans were unique, >>however. They changed the water." >> >>"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. >>"When adversity knocks on your >>door, how do you respond? Are you a >>carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean? >> >>Think of this: Which am I? Am I the >>carrot that seems strong, but with >>pain and adversity, do wilt and become >>soft and lose my strength? >> >>Am I the egg that starts with a malleable >>heart, but changes with the heat? >> >>Did I once have a fluid spirit, but after >>death, breakup, a financial hardship, or >>some other trial, have I become hardened and >>stiff? Does my shell look the same, but >>on the inside am I bitter and tough with >>a stiff spirit and a hardened heart? >> >>Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean >>actually changes the hot water, the >>very circumstance that brings the pain. >>When the water gets hot,it releases >>the fragrance and flavor. When things are >>at their worst, do I get better >>and change the situation around me? >> >>How do you handle adversity? When the >>hours are the darkest and trials are >>their greatest, do you elevate to another >>level? >> >>What gives you the greatest opportunity >>for long term happiness? That is >>your highest choice. > >